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dumbndumber (original poster member #25700) posted at 10:01 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014
I have been through hell and back and so has my wife. I cheated on her, then her on me, have been separated and living apart for 3 1/2 years!! we have dated other people, relationships, the works. After all of this and reaching the depths of dispair, on the edge of executing divorce papers...we have found a way back to each other. We are in conseling together and dating and it's going really well. For the first time since all this happened we are on the same page together. Its been 4 1/2 years. We are taking it slow but I am probably going to move back in the end of March. No way in hell I thought this would happen. No way. I know we will be OK. I am older smarter and have been through enough therapy to choke a horse.
It was like one day we both looked at each other and realized what each one of us had. I really believe this will work, i still love my wife.
Threnody ( member #1558) posted at 10:05 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014
I remember some of your early posts. This update from you made me smile, ear to ear. I'm happy for you both.
Wishing you both the best!
“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown
turtle72 ( member #21773) posted at 10:19 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014
That is wonderful, congratulations!
Me: 41 BS/WW/BS
2 kids 9 & 11, 3 steps 20, 8 and 3
BS 1st DDay 10/14/08, 5 mo. PA w/ MOW
WW 2nd D-Day 3/22/10, my exit A with HS BF
Separated 4/19/10
Married H #2 10/8/11
BS latest Dday 12/28/13 - PA w/ single COW
Truly ( member #40715) posted at 10:44 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014
Awwww....YAY! 
There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 11:55 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014
well d n d
That sounds pretty awesome!
Good luck!!
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
Jls0320 ( member #41192) posted at 12:15 AM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
That's awesome, I hope it all goes perfectly!
Me: BS 2 young kiddos
Him: EXWH, SA/NPD, Craigslist, porn, cam sites. EA/PA with disgusting co-worker troll
Too many DDays 9/13-1/15, too many chances to be a good man
Together 16 yrs, married 7yrs,
Divorced 2/11/15
I deserve to be the ONLY one
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 1:41 AM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
That's wonderful!! 
dumbndumber (original poster member #25700) posted at 3:34 AM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
Thanks for your well wishes. It's still a long road with a lot of twists and turns ahead. I'm thankful to have made it this far. What a crazy journey this has been. all those long nights of no sleep and desperation I'm sure many of you know the same. Sometimes I look back and wonder how I got through to this point. I will not fuck it up this time.
womaninflux ( member #39667) posted at 3:41 AM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
I guess this really proves a statement I read on some blog that as long as two people are still alive, there is hope for reconciliation.
BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"
CompleteScrewUp ( new member #42503) posted at 3:44 AM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
This is really good news! I am very happy for both of you! It def. gives others like me more hope 
I wish you two the best for luck and pure happiness!
Me: WS (32)
Him: BS (34)
Married 2003
3 Children
D-day: Jan. 16, 2014
OnAnIsland ( member #34319) posted at 8:10 AM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
This is good news. Keep doing the work. I wish you happiness.
D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013
Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful sons
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou
blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 12:01 PM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
Incredible!!!!!!
My heart is smiling.
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
Aceofbase ( member #42458) posted at 12:16 PM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
DD: 12/18/2013
Status: R
Happiness is a choice.
Aceofbase ( member #42458) posted at 12:16 PM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
DD: 12/18/2013
Status: R
Happiness is a choice.
sinsof thefather ( member #29295) posted at 12:44 PM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
I remember seeing posts of yours from time to time too, so I'm very happy to see this one. It's great that things are going so well for you and your wife now and I wish you both all the best as you continue to move forward together.
...second star to the right and straight on till morning.
LivinginLimbo ( member #35004) posted at 12:49 PM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
Congratulations!! I'm friends with a couple who divorced for quite a few years and eventually remarried. They couldn't be happier. I wish you all the best.
BS - 65
WH - 63
Married 37 years
D-Day 2/12/12
D-Day 6/1/16 Caught him back online early enough that no physical contact took place but still devastating. This sucks.
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