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Hello everyone.
I wasn't sure what I wanted to post on here as far as my story went, or if I even wanted to post my story, but after replying to some posts I realized that I included some of my story in my replies. After seeing that, I figured I might as well tell my story now. I will try to keep it short and to the point. So here it goes. My BS and I have have been married for 10 years and together for 12. My affair was a little over a month ago. I am in the military right now and I am ashamed that I am in the military and I have disgraced the service and all those who support us by having an affair while I was recently deployed. But this is not the first time I have done something wrong while away from home. I have realized that I have a pattern that I tend to follow when I am away from my spouse for a long period of time. It all started when my BS was in the military when we first got married. We got pregnant right away and he left for deployment only 2 weeks after our son was born. While we was gone, I went back home and got my old job back. During that time, I was hanging out with one of my good friends and her boyfriend. For some reason I started flirting with him and it progressed a little bit. He came and saw me at work one day and I took a break and walked him to his car and we kissed. I felt so bad after that happened that I swore to God that I would tell my husband, but then I didn't want to upset him during his deployment and then forgot all about it. Then when I joined the military many years later, I was in my training school and had an emotional affair with someone. He considered us just friends but it was me that was dreaming for something more and became very fond of him. Nothing happened during this time but I wrote him a letter telling him I loved him. I realized later it def. wasn't love. And then we fast forward to this deployment and my full blown sexual affair. It lasted a month. I knew it wouldn't last long because the deployment was almost over and we are stationed in two different countries and we most likely will never see each other again. My husband found out about the deployment affair last month before I came home. Then a couple days before I was supposed to come home, I informed him about the kiss when he was deployed and the full extent of the most recent affair. He already knew about the emotional affair because I told him when we got to my first duty station 3 years ago. I was a very selfish and self-centered person the last 10 years but I know I am changing now to be a much better person. There are so many details left but those can come later. But this is my story and my mess and I am trying my hardest to make it right.

Hello everyone. 
I wasn't sure what I wanted to post on here as far as my story went, or if I even wanted to post my story, but after replying to some posts I realized that I included some of my story in my replies. After seeing that, I figured I might as well tell my story now. I will try to keep it short and to the point. So here it goes. My BS and I have have been married for 10 years and together for 12. My affair was a little over a month ago. I am in the military right now and I am ashamed that I am in the military and I have disgraced the service and all those who support us by having an affair while I was recently deployed. But this is not the first time I have done something wrong while away from home. I have realized that I have a pattern that I tend to follow when I am away from my spouse for a long period of time. It all started when my BS was in the military when we first got married. We got pregnant right away and he left for deployment only 2 weeks after our son was born. While we was gone, I went back home and got my old job back. During that time, I was hanging out with one of my good friends and her boyfriend. For some reason I started flirting with him and it progressed a little bit. He came and saw me at work one day and I took a break and walked him to his car and we kissed. I felt so bad after that happened that I swore to God that I would tell my husband, but then I didn't want to upset him during his deployment and then forgot all about it. Then when I joined the military many years later, I was in my training school and had an emotional affair with someone. He considered us just friends but it was me that was dreaming for something more and became very fond of him. Nothing happened during this time but I wrote him a letter telling him I loved him. I realized later it def. wasn't love. And then we fast forward to this deployment and my full blown sexual affair. It lasted a month. I knew it wouldn't last long because the deployment was almost over and we are stationed in two different countries and we most likely will never see each other again. My husband found out about the deployment affair last month before I came home. Then a couple days before I was supposed to come home, I informed him about the kiss when he was deployed and the full extent of the most recent affair. He already knew about the emotional affair because I told him when we got to my first duty station 3 years ago. I was a very selfish and self-centered person the last 10 years but I know I am changing now to be a much better person. There are so many details left but those can come later. But this is my story and my mess and I am trying my hardest to make it right.

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