Which would be a really fun way to reply to the "We didn't do anything wrong" line IMO.
My WH was the same way for a few months after Dday. He never loved COW, just liked flirting and talking dirty with her. He would say it was inappropriate but never saw it as cheating or an EA. He slowly started to realize just how messed up it was and will actually apologize out of the blue now. When I try to minimize by saying, "It's okay" (co-dependent me) he will stop me and say, "No, it's not okay." It took him awhile to see it so if you are still close to Dday that may be the case.
I would suggest he read Not Just Friends.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/healing_library/confrontation/emotional_affairs.asp
You might want to and print it out for WH if you want to add some fact to your issue. However if D is the path and you won't turn back then there is no need to engage in his tactics to engage. Just know that your views on the damage of EAs are correct and you aren't overreacting.
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
^^^^^ I definitely second this ^^^^^
And tell him its some steamy novel about how "Twin Flames" find a way to make it work so he'll dive right into it, then before he knows it he'll be hooked in with guilt as the book unravels his stupidity before him like layers in an onion...just kidding. Giving him the book should be enough.
It is ridiculous, but you can't convince him otherwise while he is in the land of unicorns and rainbows.
You are smart and strong. Stay the course.
((((and strength))))
What an arse!
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
