Long story short : WW had what I believe to be a long term affair (she had told him she loved him etc) with a AP who lives over seas (he has 2 kids).
We are 2/3 through our trial separation my WW requested so she could get more space to think. We agreed ground rules, including dates, MC, IC, and sharing of child care.
WW is still ambivalent about what she wants and my IC (our MC too) and I agree that my WW will need more time - ie: extend the separation.
WW showing signs of progress but we don't discuss the affair (probably b/c of guilt, shame - she had an abortion b/c of it) and she isn't remorseful (MC says she resents the heck out of me and probably blames me for the affair).
MC feels things are positive but I think differently. The ambivalence is killing me even though we are actively working on ourselves and our marriage.
My fear is that my WW is still in love with the AP to the point where she wants to break up our marriage for a relationship that probably work out in the end (MC said that if she really wanted to leave she would have had the baby).
What do I do if she wants more space? She is at home with our daughter and I'm sleeping on a couch. Shouldn't I ask her to move out until she comes to a decision?