The saying "Wish I knew then what I knew now" can't apply until you try to save the marriage after he cheats but yeah...7 months later...my gut was right. I should of taken the out and ran.
I'm so sorry you are in this horrible mess called infidelity. It s*cks. No getting around it, you have to muddle through it.
((((Hugs))))
The saying "Wish I knew then what I knew now" can't apply until you try to save the marriage after [she] cheats but yeah...7 months later...my gut was right. I should of taken the out and ran.
^^^That's me too. It took the following for me to finally listen to my gut.
My gut was telling me in April/May. I told my Aunt on Mother's Day that I felt like there was another man (never thought to investigate other than ask my WW, stupid, of course she lied). I found out there was OM in August, more in September, more in November, and caught them together in February. Filed for D last week.
I will NEVER again ignore my gut feeling. It's been right on every time.
In the end the trail started on my computer history and from that moment on my gut was telling me the game was afoot. Every chance I got I checked his phone and his computer. I know they say if you look you will find things you wish you hadn't ,but me I'd rather know. Ignorance is not bliss.
The funny thing was he would go out of his way to let me use his phone. So confident was he that he'd covered his tracks. An iPhone though (in advanced settings for safari) has a web log of all the internet sites that phone has visited. His history was always deleted but this was not.
My gut was right every time-and I caught him 3x.
There are so very many times where I followed gut feelings and was right, and a few times I didn't and was wrong. This was a whole 'nother level of me being wrong for not listening. I will never question my gut again.
If any of you reading this are ignoring your gut, please, please listen. Thats all i can say.
It was a couple of weeks before I followed my gut though. I blamed my high anxiety on the fact that it was getting close to Christmas, and I was PMSing. I always get crabby and bitchy and am ready to leave my whole family just before Christmas. The shopping, the baking, the decorating, the inlaws that can't make a plan, or show up to stay last minute ... etc. etc.
Maybe if I had followed my gut, instead of ... oh you know .... trying to make the perfect Christmas for everyone else, things wouldn't have escalated from sexting to physical.
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Since DDAY, I have a hard time following my gut, because my thought processes, emotions, dealing with life as a single mom, etc are all over the page.
I truly think this is a very good reason why I don't think I should be dating or in a relationship yet.
I thought I was not worthy of his love, that I had done something so wounding to him that I was being paid back, and I believed that I deserved it. Sometimes I would get angry because he was being so withholding and superior. And then I would feel that I was being punished for being upset. And rightly so.
This was all subliminal. What a f^*&( up way to live. Meanwhile, my gut was telling me, telling me--til finally one day I put it all together and checked his email. Two and a half years later!
Trust the gut, trust the intuition, don't take it on yourself like I did.
