Remember this is why you pay your attorney. To think about these things so you don't have to.
Second, he can say anything he wants. You will learn a lot more about him by watching how he handles this and how much contempt and venom he spews toward you and HIS kids.
NPD-x told my lawyer I was underemployed because I only work 190 days per year.....I am a teacher for heavens sake. I have all these 1 week breaks through out the year, and a 7 week break in the summer. During my 190 days, i usually work 10 hour days. Complete Rubbish from him and his bully lawyer.
So, he has shown you he is going to spew crap and go for the jugular. Let you lawyer know all the details...ALL.
How long were you married?
D-Day, June 10, 2012
That piece of shit can cry and moan about whatever the fuck he wants. You make sure that you have your position with your L outlined.
What I did was figured out how a judge would rule on our case regarding things that were important to me (your lawyer ought to know how judges typically rule in your area)...then you ask for more so that you have an opportunity to negotiate.
Deep breath. You got this.
I met with my L to prep for it (cha-ching) but I feel so much better. It is just a game with the lawyers. They are trying to get as much as they can, you are trying to get as much as you can. His L doesn't give a shit about either of you, just doing his job. It is only a negotiation, be strong.
Take a xanax if you can get your hands on one. You need to just sit there, don't say anything and externally look calm even if you are freaking out inside. Calm like a still lake, even if you are raging inside.
I went to the courtroom and sat in on a case with my judge once, so that I would know what to expect and not be nervous when it was my turn. Maybe that would help if you have time??