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Living in a new financial situation

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 nekorb (original poster member #40306) posted at 3:33 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014

I'm anticipating the new financial situation and wondering if anyone took any financial seminars or the like when you got D?

We've been fortunate that money has not been an issue for us in the past. I know that my thought process about money and spending is going to have to change drastically.

The church I go to is offering the Financial Peace class starting in a couple of weeks.

Has anyone attended this? Did you like it? Do you have other suggestions? Books, websites, anything at all will be helpful.

Thanks.

Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman

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stronger08 ( member #16953) posted at 4:14 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014

http://bygpub.com/finance/

You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 8:11 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014

No advice on seminars, but good for you being proactive!

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

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dmari ( member #37215) posted at 8:26 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014

I second devistatedmom! Good for you!! You are taking the steps to control your future!

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myowndystopia ( member #41340) posted at 8:27 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014

Love Dave Ramsey. I haven't done financial peace but know plenty that have and I've listened to his radio show and own his books. If you have debt you need to get out of - financial peace will be helpful- also for not acquiring new debt. I've talked with friends that have gone down the D path and they have helped me with budgets and spreadsheets and plan. I don't have debt but never been very good at organizing the bills and all. I'm hoping by time my D is final- I will be competent with that task. I also fear when it's final I may sink into a little darker place so using energy now to prep to do what I will have to do when it's all said and done.

Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele

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million pieces ( member #27539) posted at 8:50 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014

LOOOOOVE Dave Ramsey also. Haven't done the Financial Peace, but have read his books and used to frequent his website. Really helped ex and I get our finances straightened out when I became a SAHM. We had debt but a good income, and it really helped figure out a plan for what and how things should be payed off and in what order. Rereading it right now.

Me - 52 D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later, Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

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Gemini71 ( member #40115) posted at 10:54 PM on Saturday, February 22nd, 2014

Most of what I've read about Financial Peace is living within your means. Since your means are about to change, this sounds like a wonderful opportunity for you. As with everything else, take what is helpful and ignore the rest. Good luck.

DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

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 nekorb (original poster member #40306) posted at 4:19 AM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014

Stronger08 - I've bookmarked that site and will read it over. Thanks!

If I end up going to Financial Peace I will let you all know how it goes/ if it's helpful, etc.

Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman

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Leia ( member #42510) posted at 4:44 AM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014

I used to do taxes, so I feel somewhat competent to offer this advice. I think Financial Peace is sound, and there are plenty of avenues that have sound financial information. The thing about these seminars/books is that everyone's financial situation is different. Just like with the self-help books that are recommended, you have to take bits and pieces and make it work for you. If you're not a person who is organized, keeping separate envelops may drive you crazy. If you're super organized that may be the route to go. I would encourage you to go and learn all that you can because learning about money is so important. Also, I've found the book "Rich Dad/Poor Dad" entertaining and helpful. Best wishes to you!

"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

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