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Sad in AZ posted 2/22/2014 10:31 AM

There are a lot of new 'faces' on this site who are struggling with their decision to end their relationships. An SI friend posted this some time ago, and it helped me greatly. I hope it helps you

* To "let go" does not mean to stop caring; it means I can't do it for someone else.
* To "let go" is not to cut myself off; it's the realization I can't control another.
* To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
* To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
* To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another; it's to make the most of myself.
* To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about.
* To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive.
* To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
* To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
* To "let go" is not to be protective; it's to permit another to face reality.
* To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept.
* To "let go" is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
* To "let go" is not to criticize and regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be.
* To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
* To "let go" is to not regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
* To "let go" is to fear less and love myself more.

suckstobeme posted 2/22/2014 11:19 AM

I love this post - it still helps me even though I'm not a new face on SI. I'm sure it will go a long way for the newer members. Thanks for the repost!

inconnu posted 2/22/2014 12:23 PM

I'm sure I saw this when it was posted before, but I think I've forgotten some of this. I need to print this out and put it somewhere where I can see it often. Thanks, Sazzy!

stronggirl72 posted 2/22/2014 13:37 PM

Thanks for re-posting this.

BAB61 posted 2/22/2014 14:23 PM

Thanks!!

norabird posted 2/23/2014 01:03 AM

Good reminders and a nice perspective, thanks!