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User Topic: To Let Go-a repost
Sad in AZ
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Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, February 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are a lot of new 'faces' on this site who are struggling with their decision to end their relationships. An SI friend posted this some time ago, and it helped me greatly. I hope it helps you

* To "let go" does not mean to stop caring; it means I can't do it for someone else.
* To "let go" is not to cut myself off; it's the realization I can't control another.
* To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
* To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
* To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another; it's to make the most of myself.
* To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about.
* To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive.
* To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
* To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
* To "let go" is not to be protective; it's to permit another to face reality.
* To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept.
* To "let go" is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
* To "let go" is not to criticize and regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be.
* To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
* To "let go" is to not regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
* To "let go" is to fear less and love myself more.


Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the tylenol?

Posts: 20550 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
suckstobeme
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Member # 30853
Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, February 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this post - it still helps me even though I'm not a new face on SI. I'm sure it will go a long way for the newer members. Thanks for the repost!


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 2907 | Registered: Jan 2011
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, February 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sure I saw this when it was posted before, but I think I've forgotten some of this. I need to print this out and put it somewhere where I can see it often. Thanks, Sazzy!


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12187 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
stronggirl72
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, February 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for re-posting this.


"Taking the high road, and doing it with class."

DIVORCED!!


Posts: 155 | Registered: Oct 2012
BAB61
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, February 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks!!


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
norabird
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Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 1:03 AM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good reminders and a nice perspective, thanks!


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4235 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
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