This morning I got up, made enough coffee for myself and went for my walk with my friend. When I got back, I was in my room getting ready for today's plans. STBXH tracks me down, and presents me with the used coffee grounds and says "Shit like this doesn't help." I asked what he was talking about and he pointed out that I only made enough coffee for myself (coffee was our thing, and we always made coffee for each other in the past). I burst out with "You fired me, remember? I don't have to take care of you because we're roommates now. I got fired." I then turned and walked in the master bath. He walked off without saying a word. When I walked out the door for the rest of my plans today, he didn't have anything to say and I heard the coffee grinder working!!! Score one for me.
Thank you Skan, for pointing out on one of my previous threads that I was fired, and that I had those words in my mind to present to him. I would PM you, but can't yet. Again, thank you for pointing that out. Having phrases like that helped me out today.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
I am chuckling at this. I have spent quite a bit of time lately analyzing the balance of "chores" at home between WH and I. Laundry is big. He just complained that I was all caught up with washing but his running gear didn't get done... He didn't get t out of the plastic bag or take it down to washer --- what will he do when his washer lady doesn't wash it either?? Ask mom? Hahahaha. The only thing I can think of that he does that I will really miss is walking the dogs at 430am.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
I know I've collected evidence, and that I'm going to come out the better for this divorce, but right now, it is like hitting my head against a brick wall. I let the emotions run amok and keep insisting he email me his schedule--which he won't do. That, and not knowing whether I'll get to stay in this house with the kids or not. I know the motions have been filed in court, but I'm sick and tired of him being around. He's walking around like he is in a power position and I feel so powerless in this moment. I know I have power, and I know how to wield it. I just can't do anything this minute.