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Divorce/Separation :
pep talk to myself

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 Leia (original poster member #42510) posted at 11:16 AM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014

I am a writer. No, I'm not published and I do not make money from my writing. Repeated attempts to get the rat bastard to email me--both verbally and in writing--have gone unanswered. But I can sit at a computer and compose. I have a political science degree. Which means I can read, write and think. Which also means that I can be a "spin doctor." So, at this early hour when I should be asleep, it hit me--I know how to spin this divorce in my favor. There is a track record of emails with my attorney. There is evidence in writing of his ass-hole behavior. There is evidence of him cleaning out the bank account. But now, I'm going to play to my strengths and that of composition. I know how to do it. And I'm going to play to my strengths because I'm going to get what I want out of this divorce. Ok. Pep talk to myself done. Time to go write a rough draft--because that's what you do when you're a writer.

"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

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Thefly559 ( member #40268) posted at 11:21 AM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014

Often at the most unexpected times we find strength and get motivated. I am up for different reasons ( constant nightmares) but I am glad you are feeling this and taking action. Utilizing the skills you possess and fighting for yourself. I wish you all the best. Stay strong

"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"

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myowndystopia ( member #41340) posted at 3:01 PM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014

You go girl! Use your strengths and go for it!

Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele

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stronggirl72 ( member #37293) posted at 5:10 PM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014

That's right, Leia!!

I also enjoy writing, so we both know that the best ideas come at the most inconvenient times. Go for it!!

Love the pep talk.

"Taking the high road, and doing it with class."

DIVORCED!!

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dmari ( member #37215) posted at 5:12 PM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014

GO FOR IT!! I'm loving the way you can look at your situation with a different "lens" and use your strengths to go get what you are entitled to!

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LoveHerStill ( member #31504) posted at 8:25 PM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014

May the Force be with you!

Me BH-45 @ Dday
Her WW-44 @ Dday
Married-20yrs
Together-26yrs
D-Day 4/11/10
Divorced 9/13/2010
XWW Married OM 5/23/2011

It only hurts when I breathe.

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Jduff ( member #41988) posted at 9:23 PM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014

Here's another pot of hot coffee/tea for you! I hope the writing is going well!

The grass is always greener.... where the dogs are shitting.

-Soundgarden

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scarednbroken ( member #41961) posted at 10:46 PM on Sunday, February 23rd, 2014

You go girl!!! Girl power!!

BS: Me 47 WH: 54 Kids: 17, 19, 21, 32 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

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persevere ( member #31468) posted at 12:31 AM on Monday, February 24th, 2014

I love it when a plan starts to come together! You go Leia! Can't wait to hear the update!

DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 12:32 AM on Monday, February 24th, 2014

There she is!

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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