Backstory:
We were exclusive for one year.
We broke up. He said he didn't love me enough.
There was no dishonesty and/or cheating.
I felt very hurt and went NC for one month.
After reconnecting, he asked to be friends. I wasn't sure and still felt anger, but he sweetened the deal by offering to help with some household stuff I needed help with. I asked if 1.was he lonely? 2.was he asking for another chance? 3. sex?
I ruled out all three by not just words, but his actions, namely asking for sex one night and I got turned down. (I felt hurt)
He continued to bring goodies for my girls, make sure they got me a bday cake on my birthday, bought them bday gifts, provided emotional support when there was a serious issue, bought dinner and cooked it at my place for me and my girls, and more. (lots of actions)
One night we had too much to drink watching an important sports game at his place. I said I would spend the night as not to drive drunk.
I asked for FWB he said yes this time.
The favors for me continue. We have also been dating since after NC as in he asks me out and we go do things together, he pays mostly. Sometimes I pay but not as much. Anyway it's like being SOs except we don't hold hands or kiss or say we are bf/gf. I am not in love with him anymore, and at first he didn't seem to be either. Now maybe he is still not, but when I pull away he pays even more attention to me.
There have been a couple of other fwb times and we always stay overnight together and cuddle. I read about fwb online and there are so many "rules" none of which we are following! I'm confident he is not seeing anyone else, and I am not interested in anyone else; just really apathetic about romance and more focused on other areas of life, getting ready for big career change, selling house after 15 years, etc. He likes to talk more and lots of eye contact, and sprucing up his appearance whereas when we first reconnected he didn't shave often and things like that. I've gone in the reverse from putting extra effort into my appearance when we reconnected to now if he comes over and I'm sweaty in workout clothes don't care. He's upfront and direct though and would ask to be SOs again rather than hinting. We communicate daily.
Has anyone ever done this? Where did it lead?
Is this "ok"? well dumb question we're adults and no one is in a committed relationship with anyone else, no one is sleeping with anyone else.
I'm not sure what my point is here, it's just new territory and without any experience in this, at this age feels odd.