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Jacobswife posted 2/23/2014 20:30 PM

I understand that you catch more flys with honey then vinegar but I have to honey to give! I am full of Pisa and vinegar because he wants to be the victim but I didn't cheat, he did! Please, please help me! I want to be understanding and feel bad for him, but I don't and don't think I should have too! Shaking, sick to my stomach, and wanting to walk away!

Jacobswife posted 2/23/2014 20:31 PM

Should say piss and vinegar! Sorry for my typos!

Breezy150 posted 2/23/2014 20:47 PM

You have no reason to feel sorry for him. None of his choices are your fault, you didn't deserve it. He needs to own his own crap. All of it.

JustWow posted 2/23/2014 20:50 PM

Blameshifting, re-writing of the relationship history, justifying and distorted reality are all chapters in the cheaters handbook. And all utter bull$hit.

You may catch more flies with honey, but who the hell wants a fly?

4everfaithful83 posted 2/23/2014 20:56 PM

Why the hell would you feel bad for him?? He's the one who cheated. If he's making you feel that way then you are with an un-remorseful WH.

Read about and practice the 180...pronto!!

He should be kissing your ass right now...not the other way around...

norabird posted 2/23/2014 20:59 PM

Is he complaining about his treatment from you? Wah wah wah. Cry me a river! Actions, meet consequences. Don't spare a thought for how he wishes you were being nicer. I bet you wish he didn't cheat!!!!

strangeasfiction posted 2/23/2014 21:00 PM

I want to be understanding and feel bad for him, but I don't and don't think I should have too!
You shouldn't feel badly for him for what he did! Do you think he would feel badly for you if you were the one who cheated? Of course not. I know there are many emotions operating on many different levels. You might feel badly for him for other reasons, but please don't mistake that for needing to feel badly for him because of the terrible choice he made.

mainlyinpain posted 2/23/2014 21:00 PM

Don't let him play the victim in any way.
He had enough time making himself feel good, whatever pain he is feeling is his rewards for his choices. Your pain was not due to any choices you made.

LOL "You may catch more flies with honey, but who the hell wants a fly?" LOL

ROTFL Picturing my WH head on a buzzing fly's body!

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