Topic: I'll give you half
Member # 41705
| Posted: 9:11 PM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014|
Today, my STBXWH came and got some of his stuff. I was as kind as I could be, even offering him lunch. As he was leaving, he asked how I was, to which I replied that I was great. He said he was unsure about our collaborative process, to which I replied that I could just sue him, instead. He said at that point that he had told his lawyer to give me half of everything. I got really mad and told him that he no longer was in charge of me. Also, he wasn't giving me anything. I have worked for what I will get and was entitled to it. It was not something he would give me. If I were to charge him for each year of our marriage, he could never pay the bill he owes.
Posts: 171 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Upstate New York
Member # 32554
| Posted: 9:30 PM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014|
Way to go!
Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
Posts: 10029 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 23890
| Posted: 9:35 PM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014|
Bah-da-Bing!! Good for you!
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
Posts: 4166 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Member # 37215
| Posted: 9:39 PM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014|
Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."
Posts: 2303 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 39320
| Posted: 9:47 PM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014|
Hi Smashedat58. Wow that was good. I need to be stronger. I have tried to be nice or pleasant to my soon to be ex WS, but he just plays me so much and is still trying to play me now. I hope I get stronger because he is about to loose more then he can imagine after 28 years of marriage and he quit his job and make about 1/16 of what he use to make. this really stinks but when I think of my life with him clear from it I feel so much stress gone from my shoulders and I feel like my heart can be happy again. Good for you and I Pray I can get stronger . I would like to stop all communication with him but he does not have a attorney and I don't know how we can agree on things if he does not have a attorney.
I cant wait to this is over and I will be free to be happy and find a man who will treat me well and love me like I deserve.
Good Luck in your life but it sounds like you have it under control.
Posts: 17 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Western , Mass
Member # 41340
| Posted: 10:21 PM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014|
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)
"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
Member # 16953
| Posted: 4:28 AM, February 24th (Monday), 2014|
Your post resonates with me. I remember having a face to face meeting with our lawyers trying to negotiate a settlement. We were bickering back and forth about financial/material nonsense when my XW chimed in that she would give me the old SUV that was paid for and she would keep the new car along with the payments. For some reason that statement really pissed me off. I jumped up and started ranting about her giving me things I already owned. It was along the lines of
Give me ? You mean to say that your giving me something that I already own. You only worked for about 20% of the M and that was low paid nonsense that usually cost me money just so you would be happy having a job. Then you decided that you wanted to be a slut and cheat on me. And when I caught you there was no remorse. Now your asking for half of everything I have worked for plus you want to get paid SS on top of that. Excuse me, but you didn't give me anything but heartache and pain
Naturally that was the last face to face meeting we ever had. Everything was handled through the attorneys after that. I did finally settle with her and yes she did get more than half of everything. But I only paid SS for a year. She got herself a nice 6 figure settlement just for being a cheating bitch. In retrospect I should have been more cooperative as she was entitled to half the assets. But that simple "Give Me" statement sent me off the deep end. I laugh about it now, but at the time I was so angry I wanted to destroy something. Your going to have many moments like this, so be prepared for them to happen. Sometimes just a simple word or sentence can set us off. Yet you handled it nicely.
You cant eat soup with chopsticks.
Posts: 5830 | Registered: Nov 2007
Member # 38122
| Posted: 11:46 AM, February 24th (Monday), 2014|
he wasn't giving me anything. I have worked for what I will get and was entitled to it
One of the best things I've ever read on here!
Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
Posts: 2157 | Registered: Jan 2013
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