What is nesting? I see that term on this thread..
Most definitely In-house isn't for those who have a spouse with a volatile temper..
I thought I could file for divorce when I had my ducks in a row..
Last evening when my WH returned home from work, he had to cook something for himself..I had already eaten, he knows that he is not responsible to cook for me, but he often does anyway...He knew I had eaten already, all he had was himself to worry about..
WH started losing his temper when he had to get a spatula from our half full dishwasher and rinse it off..When I realized that he was in a bitchy mood, I walked back to my bedroom, shut the door and picked up a book to read..
I heard a ton load of loud cussing, name calling, kicking , throwing stuff around, banging walls..
I decided to keep my cell phone close by...I got my sharp pair of scissors (weapon) and kept them close too.. I was worried that he might barge into my bedroom even though that has never happened since we were separated in house....There is a lock on my door, but my door (locked) wouldn't keep away somebody mad enough to get in..
Just because WH comes home from work tired and achey, he is not allowed to take it out on me...I worked all during our married life, including the time WH was unemployed and cheating..
I am retired... I am gonna stay that way ( while separated in house ) until sometime after a D is final...
But if I have to listen to his bullshit every evening, I don't know..
The minute he touches me though all bets are off..I will call the police, file a restraining order, file for D immediately and ask for exclusive use of the house..
Ultimately I don't want the house as part of a D settlement..
I want to start a new life in a new place..
With that said, WH needs to know I can play hardball and that he can't make threats on my physical well being or try to scare me otherwise without repercussions..
[This message edited by doggiediva at 10:43 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)]