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Topic: Is there a check list for those just starting?

25yearslater
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Posted: 7:59 AM, February 24th (Monday), 2014

I have been lurking on this board for a while. I think I am finally realizing that if WH doesn't do the work then true R doesn't work. I've put in a ton of work on the marriage and am still working on myself, but if he isn't honest with himself, it doesn't work.

I'm in the process of setting up initial consultations with L. Is there a checklist, FAQ, or any great resources for starting this process? WH says that he "will always take care of us" but for some reason I just don't trust him. (Insert a sarcastic voice).

me: 50 yrs old BW
him: 50 yrs old WH
Together: 33 years
Married: 28 years (?)
2 teenagers that we love dearly!
DDay: November 2010
DDay #2: July 30, 2011 found out restarted EA with same MOW (ended before I found out)
DDay #3 & #4: 11/26/11
D

Posts: 119 | Registered: Jul 2011

TrustedHer
♂ 23328
Member # 23328

Posted: 11:15 AM, February 24th (Monday), 2014

In the Healing Library (link is in yellow box at upper left), there is an articles section. It has some basic getting-started stuff for those divorcing.

And feel free to ask any questions you have. Odds are, someone else has the same question and just hasn't asked yet...

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/articles.asp

Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5276 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX

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