I have been lurking on this board for a while. I think I am finally realizing that if WH doesn't do the work then true R doesn't work. I've put in a ton of work on the marriage and am still working on myself, but if he isn't honest with himself, it doesn't work.
I'm in the process of setting up initial consultations with L. Is there a checklist, FAQ, or any great resources for starting this process? WH says that he "will always take care of us" but for some reason I just don't trust him. (Insert a sarcastic voice).