I think that it is fair to express that you are triggering a bit. Clarify that it isn't because of anything that he is doing and just ask for support. Keeping it bottled in, worrying, and/or seeking out info that the shoe needs to drop is going to be counter productive.
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
Over time as I healed more and became stronger, those feelings lessened and then ceased altogether.
Share with your H how you're feeling.....the two of you together can work it out....IMO, that's part of reconciling.
D-Day, June 10, 2012