What about all of his friends? And mutual friends? I don't post much online but really don't need him seeing what I am up to. Don't know why but this seems harder than leaving or signing.
Congrats on getting the papers signed and settlement done.
"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you." -Walt Whitman
Divorced 1/17/2013
"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
Second, yes, delete/block him. Onward and upward to bigger and better things.
DD(21), DS(19, PDD-NOS) 5 Furkids - 3 dogs, 2 cats
WXH#1 (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs
I edit often for clarity/typos.
I blocked XWH, OW, and OW's family. Partly because I didn't want them looking at my stuff, but mostly to keep myself from looking at theirs. Right after the divorce, XWH had his page totally public, and was posting all sorts of sappy shit about his new life and OW. Every once in awhile I'd get an urge to look, and always ended up hurting myself. I blocked not only for privacy but to protect myself, from myself.
I know what you mean about wanting him to see you getting on with your life and doing okay. It's a painful realization to come to, but the bottom line is they just don't care. He didn't care whether you were happy or miserable while you were his wife; he's going to care even less now. Painful... I know. Believe me, I know. It was hard for me to come to terms with that. He was still the center of my life, but I hadn't been the center of his for a long time, even before the D. It's a painful break but once you let go of it, I hope you will feel some relief, like I did.
We had no mutual friends on social media, and XWH is friendless in general anyway. He deleted immediately everyone he knew would be on "my" side and who knew what an utter POS he is. The only thing left we have mutual on fb etc are some of his family members. But because I've blocked him we can't see each other's posts etc. I might see "5 likes" on a new photo his daughter has put up. If I click the "5 likes", and it shows me only 4 names, then I know XWH was the other "like".
Spring is almost here, roar. Think FRESH, think CLEAN, think RENEWAL. This is the time to purge XWH and all that toxic misery from your life, and that includes online connections. NC = no new hurts. And viewing on social media = C.
You can do this.
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords
I am going to take a social media break on my mini vacation this week and will bite the last few bullets when I get home.
I really like the blocking feature.
