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roarlouder posted 2/24/2014 12:20 PM

Papers signed. Settlement done. Am telling friends. I need to delete/block him online right? Was thinking about just putting him on limited profile so he can't see anything but is t deleted. I don't know why.

What about all of his friends? And mutual friends? I don't post much online but really don't need him seeing what I am up to. Don't know why but this seems harder than leaving or signing.

nowiknow23 posted 2/24/2014 12:36 PM

Delete/block him.
Delete/block his friends.
Limit mutual friends, although I have to tell you - I don't have any mutual friends with wasband. No body stayed in contact with him, but if they had, I would have blocked them for my own protection.

Congrats on getting the papers signed and settlement done.

nutmegkitty posted 2/24/2014 12:45 PM

Yep, blocking is the way to go. If you block someone it's like they don't exist online any more. It's very freeing to block them.

GreatRoleModel posted 2/24/2014 12:55 PM

Yes block... I will say that I deactivated all my social media accounts and I love it! It also takes away the temptation to check. My kids have gone off FB too as he posts pictures of him and OW and their travels. I email, text, and talk with who I need to so I don't feel I am missing anything. Congrats!

sparkysable posted 2/24/2014 13:33 PM

Anyone who remained a friend of OW and XWH became dead to me.

norabird posted 2/24/2014 14:58 PM


GabyBaby posted 2/24/2014 15:00 PM

First, congrats!

Second, yes, delete/block him.
Onward and upward to bigger and better things.

newlysingle posted 2/24/2014 15:02 PM

I agree, block him and block anyone that is still friends with him. That is what I did.

roarlouder posted 2/24/2014 16:25 PM

It feels so final. Part of me wants him to see me living a happy life...but I imagine more crap will just come with that.

gypsybird87 posted 2/24/2014 17:12 PM

Congrats on everything moving forward! I know it is bittersweet... but it's necessary and you really can't start healing until the legal crap is behind you.

I blocked XWH, OW, and OW's family. Partly because I didn't want them looking at my stuff, but mostly to keep myself from looking at theirs. Right after the divorce, XWH had his page totally public, and was posting all sorts of sappy shit about his new life and OW. Every once in awhile I'd get an urge to look, and always ended up hurting myself. I blocked not only for privacy but to protect myself, from myself.

I know what you mean about wanting him to see you getting on with your life and doing okay. It's a painful realization to come to, but the bottom line is they just don't care. He didn't care whether you were happy or miserable while you were his wife; he's going to care even less now. Painful... I know. Believe me, I know. It was hard for me to come to terms with that. He was still the center of my life, but I hadn't been the center of his for a long time, even before the D. It's a painful break but once you let go of it, I hope you will feel some relief, like I did.

We had no mutual friends on social media, and XWH is friendless in general anyway. He deleted immediately everyone he knew would be on "my" side and who knew what an utter POS he is. The only thing left we have mutual on fb etc are some of his family members. But because I've blocked him we can't see each other's posts etc. I might see "5 likes" on a new photo his daughter has put up. If I click the "5 likes", and it shows me only 4 names, then I know XWH was the other "like".

Spring is almost here, roar. Think FRESH, think CLEAN, think RENEWAL. This is the time to purge XWH and all that toxic misery from your life, and that includes online connections. NC = no new hurts. And viewing on social media = C.

You can do this.

roarlouder posted 2/24/2014 22:17 PM

It's so stupid. I am worried about hurting his feelings. How warped?

I am going to take a social media break on my mini vacation this week and will bite the last few bullets when I get home.

Kajem posted 2/24/2014 22:27 PM

I've blocked XH and nw/ow. We have 4 kids together and are both friends with them. The only way I know he's commented to my kids status is if I count the posts!

I really like the blocking feature.

nowiknow23 posted 2/24/2014 22:34 PM

(((roar))) You're not stupid honey. You can save yourself a lot of pain if you block. If he is hurt by that, so be it. There's plenty of hurt to go around in the situation. Just don't sign yourself up to take on even more than you've already got. Ok?

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