"She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails." Elizae
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[This message edited by SI Staff at 12:58 PM, February 24th (Monday)]
I could hurt her deeply with words
Unless she has done some serious soul-searching and healing, your words won't hurt her.
Concentrate on your healing. The hate and pent-up anger you carry for the OW will eventually show up in places you never expected.
Compared to her I am a saint and such a better woman. This is easy to do because OW is at the bottom of the barrel. I know it, my fWH knows it. I don't care whether she knows it or not. She is nothing and deserves no schooling from me on what she did, what she is etc. OW is not worth any of my emotional energy.
I'm working on taking back things and blocking OW from my thoughts if you can't tell...
The second OW: She hasn't a good name when it comes to men. Friends know, stupid H knows now. Anyway, H and I went to a public place where friens and OW were. I said hello to everybody, I didn't show anything. I DISREGARDED her, like she didn't exist, she was NOTHING to me.
My mum has told me that this kind of thing can "kill" such people. It worked.
Bottom line is this: Other People were, are and always will be there. The CHEATER is the key and should take the WHOLE BLAME. Period.
"You can't fix a broken man, but he can break you"
I wasn't wearing my glasses, so I didn't see her and her OBS, but my H did. Funny thing, I just pretended she didn't exist. It was nice -- and freeing. It didn't feel like "AAAArgh!!! Terminator-vengance good," but it felt serene. Like I had my life back.
I have so many things she will never have
I have grace
I am kind
I can hold my head up high
I love myself
I have friends
I have people who care about me
I have dignity
I have class
I have integrity
I am a good person
I am a great friend
I am a great daughter
I am a great wife
I am a great mom
See your OW will never have what you have! It is sad that they think the way that they do! Keep your head up high! Kill them with kindness!!! Drives them crazy
And the other post was right, it won't affect them anyway.