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roarlouder posted 2/24/2014 16:29 PM

I think since DDay I was in survival mode. Since moving out, adrenaline and dealing with the "to-dos". Now there's not really much left.

I am EXHAUSTED. Had a mild anxiety attack at work. I think the stress of it all is hitting me now. I could sleep for a week straight.

Tripletrouble posted 2/24/2014 18:43 PM

Oh Hugs Roar!! I know that feeling well. Sometimes I felt like I had given all I had and was ready to physically and emotionally collapse. Please be good to yourself and do some things you enjoy, especially if one of those things is sleep extra

GotPlayed posted 2/24/2014 18:51 PM

It's normal. I felt overwhelmed and exhausted after I moved out and I stopped assembling IKEA furniture. But I still couldn't sleep.

My psychosomatic symptom was that I started sweating profusely while sleeping - that started a couple nights after D-Day. I still sweat, but not as much anymore.

Get some sleep if you can. You deserve it.

BAB61 posted 2/24/2014 21:30 PM

Take care of yourself, as contra-intuitive as it sounds try to exercise. It will help you relax and improve your sleep.

roarlouder posted 2/24/2014 22:21 PM

Oh yes the dreaded night sweats!!!! I also have purple splotches on my arms- stressed much?

2 days until a mini vacation.

I am feeling bad, as my support system is stressed and exhausted too. If not for me, for them I need to try to relax. I can see the stress on my parents' faces.

badmedicine posted 2/24/2014 22:30 PM

Completely understand. When I first found out it was sadness/shame/depression that wore me out. Then I was angry and got some energy. Then reality hitting and trying to get through the holidays was exhausting again. I haven't really recovered from that yet. I feel like I could sleep through an entire weekend and still need more sleep. I hope you have IC or a trusted friend that can help with the support, too.

LoveHerStill posted 2/25/2014 00:26 AM

Ahhhh sleep! I sleep well now but couldn't for about a year after dday.

I know you have a lot on your plate, but try to prioritize and not overwork yourself. You can get to little things later. It's a matter of balance, try to find that now.

Accept help. You don't need to do it all yourself.

Find time to sleep. Even an hour nap during the day can do wonders.

I remember those days and sometimes you just have to kick your own ass to get to a point where the pressure is off. Just remember to eat and sleep when you can.

All the best, you will get through it. Wish I had more for you.