The management company is sending me a 'surrender' agreement to formally remove me from the lease. So soon it won't be a potential problem for me.
But now it's about struggling against the co-dependent urge. The 'what on earth is he doing and how can I inform him that whatever financial decisions he's making right now are stupid?' thing.
I know it's not my problem. If he wants to pay rent late, or not pay rent at all and just move out when the lease ends, it's nothing to do with me.
I just feel the old habit rising up. I used to get after him in the past when he was making stupid decisions about logistics, money, planning, priorities...all the poor choices I felt he made that I tried to correct to get him to see the error of his ways.
I don't like that pattern. And I'm not his girlfriend anymore for the very good reason that he fired me. It's not a job I want anyway, rationally.
So how do I stop wishing I could tell him to pay his rent or feeling the desire to engage about his money management?!