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User Topic: Happy Birthday from the Snake (a vent)
careerlady
♀ 16958
Member # 16958
Suspicious  Posted: 11:52 AM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Snake, who got progressively lousier at "special days" until I didn't get any gifts the last few years (we'd buy something together like trip and he'd say that's my gift ) decided to get me a huge bouquet of flowers, a delicious flourless chocolate cake, and a cologne-soaked card. The card talked about how long we've known each other and also said, in part:

"Yes we've had our challenges and yes we've had our moments. Whatever challenges life brings us I sincerely hope we take the right lessons away from them for stronger bonds in the future. Life and its experiences can only get so much worse before it starts getting better"

He acts like stuff has just "happened" to us like cancers and family death rather than his deliberate and repetitive cheating! he's right about one thing - things have gotten so bad where I have taken on an active role in making things better, by getting rid of him!

He also posted a pic of the flowers he got me on Facebook and tagged me in the photo saying "guess who turned 21" (of course I'm like 36 now and was not flattered duh:)

And he "let slip" that he'd gotten a raise and that his boss makes 2million something a year like money is going to change my mind. He's so delusional if he thinks I'm going to let things just blow over this time. He can't even lower himself enough to admit what a POS he is, just puts everything on my family and his FOO issues. Such a shame.....


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 943 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
dmari
♀ 37215
Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First of all, HaPpY bIrThDaY!!

and with snake's "gifts"!


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2334 | Registered: Oct 2012
Softcentre
39166
Member # 39166
Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

On the plus side....higher SS

He really does think a lot of himself doesn't he? And clearly wants everyone else to, as well.

I'd be tempted to post a pic of the flowers on FB saying "the flowers look nice, but they smell of bullsh*t"....except WHY WERE YOU ON HIS FB PAGE?


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - passive aggressive, tt'ing, gaslighting...multiple EA's with different women (1 'proven') and at least 1 PA

Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him.

"Until God opens the next do


Posts: 1115 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
GotPlayed
♂ 41294
Member # 41294
Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Birthday!

My last birthday sucked too. At least you got something. During mine, we weren't on speaking terms (5d after S decision). She got me a cake with DD8 and did a kid style happy birthday surprise, but mostly because DD8 insisted. It was the most awkward birthday I've ever had. She left quickly after, leaving me to tea party with my daughter.

They do act like it "just happened" and like we're the ones in the wrong for being mad. It's insane. However when you think about it, the 180 is for us to heal, and so we're not mad. We're heading for D, might as well be happy. Freedom can't be too far ahead!

By being mad at them we give them more power.

Don't give him more power. Do however note he has more money coming in now and let your L know to ask for new pay stubs.


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
Me: BH 42, Her: WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Ex-con for DV. Now with new ROs!
Divorcing

Posts: 827 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
jemimapd
♀ 37895
Member # 37895
Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Birthday!!!

I know.

It just happened.

People make mistakes.

No one's perfect.

Everyone has ups and downs.

It just happened.

No marriage is perfect.

Maybe it's a good thing this happened.



Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
BAB61
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ohhhh, he complimented you, and got you flowers .... you should be sooooooo happy ... but wait ... what? you really want a D???? awwwwww poor Snakey poo ...


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
careerlady
♀ 16958
Member # 16958
Default  Posted: 1:32 AM, February 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks guys!

Dmari- get it wasn't all bad. I enjoyed that cake just like his V Day chocolates

Softcentre - I wasn't really on his page, I just got a notice I was tagged in a photo and there it was

GotPlayed - I'm not mad. Sadly I just get little surges of anger and they hardly last. Part of the reason I forgive too much I'm going to let the pay thing go since I'm trying for default and have no confirmation

Jeminapd - exactly!!!!

BAB61 - yup he's about to be a big ole victim of the meanie wife. The nanny hasn't been told yet and she gushed over my huge flowers. Sigh.

Oh the best part is he left the big box the flowers came in on the floor for me to dispose of (he left town today) and made some crab that night and left me the dirty pot. Thanks...



Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 943 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
Softcentre
39166
Member # 39166
Default  Posted: 1:50 AM, February 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hope you did have a fab birthday

I'm so glad you weren't on his FB page, if you block him then you won't see photos at all.

Aw, but he's soooo precious isn't he? So very special! He didn't just gift you flowers, he gifted you the rubbish and the washing up too. Just lovely! (sarcasm)

I'm so glad that his arsewipery makes it easier to detach.

BTW - Tell the nanny, in fact,give her the flowers if she likes them so much. Now is the perfect time. She needs to know what an arsewipe he is, before he tries to win her over...which he is bound to try because, you know, he can't stand people not liking him.


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - passive aggressive, tt'ing, gaslighting...multiple EA's with different women (1 'proven') and at least 1 PA

Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him.

"Until God opens the next do


Posts: 1115 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
GingerAle
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Member # 33822
Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, February 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

and a cologne-soaked card


Eeeeeewwwwww!

Hey, he is loaded now $$$$... can't you just take on life's challenges with him, and learn and bond as one?

Hope you had a great day careerlady


My WH (The KISA, NPD) 6 month EA in 2010
2 other EAs in 2012 & 2013
Filed for D 7/2014


Posts: 428 | Registered: Nov 2011
Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, February 26th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How romantic. How can you resist?


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10140 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
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