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AfterTheStorm posted 2/25/2014 12:20 PM

My H sent me a text this morning to let me know that a prior manager had called and offered him a job with a substantial salary increase. Problem here is that OW works there! I asked him how he felt about it and I honestly think the $$$ is the only thing he is thinking about and not how this will affect me. The wondering and worrying that they have reconnected and are spending their lunch breaks doing what they used to do. I did voice my concern and feelings about this and he said we would discuss it and make the best decision for us, but I'm afraid he's already seriously considering the move without regard to the fact that OW will be in his presence everyday. I can't go through this a second time!

Rebreather posted 2/25/2014 12:21 PM

I'd be filing for divorce if that happened. Sorry. I don't even think it should be a consideration on his part.

karmahappens posted 2/25/2014 12:26 PM

I agree with Rebreather. I wouldn't even discuss it.

TennisTC posted 2/25/2014 13:06 PM

Hell no. My WH switched jobs after his A with a coworker, and when he left the old job it was like a boulder was lifted off my chest. There is no amount of money that would make me even consider it. And I truly mean that - I don't care if he was offered a million dollars a year.

Money can't buy peace of mind. Money can't buy a two-parent household for your children. What are those things worth to your WH? Is he really willing to risk those things for $X (amount of raise) each year? Because I think it's almost a given that he would be trading that amount of money for your peace of mind if he accepted the job offer.

[This message edited by TennisTC at 1:08 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)]

whattheh posted 2/25/2014 13:48 PM

I would point out that his pay increase won't cover the money he will lose in a divorce. This is a consequence that he will need to face. He can never take a job where OW works, no ifs and or buts...

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