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Topic: Going to see the lawyer tomorrow.

lilacs40
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Posted: 4:26 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014

And I have every intention of starting this process but I have a question. Ok a lot of them.

How long before WH finds out I filed? How does he find out? Can I fill out whatever paperwork I need to and have her wait to actually file?

I know I wouldn't want him to find out before Friday and if possible I wouldn't mind if he didn't find out for two weeks. I live in IL if that matters.

I wish I could just stop I know another moment will break my heart too many tears too many time too many years I've cried over you

Posts: 633 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: IL

Take2
♀ 23890
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Posted: 6:55 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014

Here at least, it takes a while to fill out all the paperwork. Then when you are ready, have your lawyer submit it. He is notified when he is served with said paperwork. This is a good question for the lawyer though. Have you met with the lawyer before - are you comfortable that the lawyer is a good match for you and what you need done?

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4432 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England

devistatedmom
♀ 24961
Member # 24961

Posted: 7:09 PM, February 25th (Tuesday), 2014

As long as you don't tell him, he won't find out until you have him served. You tell your lawyer when to serve him. Since you want to serve him with what you want in the D, it can take you more than 2 weeks anyway...you have a lot of work to do! Just do what you need to do, then say, ok, serve him on xxx date.

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

Posts: 5919 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada

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