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nutmegkitty posted 2/26/2014 08:24 AM

I don't normally have occasion to see the OC, but yesterday when I was picking up the girls she (OC) was at the front door hugging my youngest goodbye. The OC is almost 2 now.

Seeing this was like a punch in the gut. It made me feel so weird. Like, here is this kid who knows nothing about the circumstances under which she was born...who knows if she ever will and if that will be a cross for her to bear. And my kids love her, I'm sure. But I wonder what they think of her birth...

I feel...I don't know what I am feeling, really. I don't know what the emotion is. I think it's triggering my PTSD actually. I have not felt this unsettled for a while. I don't like feeling this way.

sparkysable posted 2/26/2014 08:39 AM

I can't imagine how that must feel.

I hate when those surprises pop up every once in a while.

nowiknow23 posted 2/26/2014 08:40 AM

((((nutmeg))))

GingerAle posted 2/26/2014 08:44 AM

((((nutmegkitty))))

SeanFLA posted 2/26/2014 09:33 AM

That has to be brutal to see and makes my heart sink for you. I'm so sorry.

BtraydWife posted 2/26/2014 09:42 AM

I would imagine it's difficult to see something so innocent and precious that came from so much pain and destruction. I'm so sorry.

Whalers11 posted 2/26/2014 09:50 AM

((nutmegkitty))

My ex has said that his OC will never know the truth, and that they plan to tell her that she was wanted and loved and mommy and daddy just couldn't get along anymore and that's why they aren't together. I know your situation is a little different from mine. It sucks no matter which way you cut it.

[This message edited by Whalers11 at 9:54 AM, February 26th (Wednesday)]

Nature_Girl posted 2/26/2014 11:46 AM

That would gut me. Totally gut me. To see an innocent, beautiful child but know that her creation was part of my destruction and the destruction of my children?

(((HUGS)))

jo2love posted 2/26/2014 13:45 PM

(((nutmeg)))

newlysingle posted 2/26/2014 13:54 PM

I can totally understand why this would bother you. I would feel gutted as well.

I have a feeling that an OC will come along at some point for me as well and it's going to hurt. I know Hello Kitty wants a baby and it will make me sick that my children will have to be related to something these two scumbags have created.

Phoenix1 posted 2/26/2014 14:01 PM

((nutmegkitty))

I totally understand. I have only seen pics of the most recent OC. She is about 1.5 years with a sweet, innocent expression. She will never know the utter destruction her birth contributed to. I will likely never seen her (thank goodness) and hope I never do. She is innocent in all this and didn't ask to be brought into the world, but her very presence rips my guts out simply because of what it symbolizes.

nutmegkitty posted 2/26/2014 16:02 PM

Thank god you guys get it. It helps. I took a klonopin today and it helped too.

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