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So I kinda lurk occasionally on Okcupid just to see what's out there....and have noticed the same trend over and over again. I am 34 years old....but do guys even remotely close to my age contact me? NO! Its always the 20 year olds....and lets face it....we know what they want! or its the guys that could have graduated in my dad's senior class contacting me thinking that I would want to date a guy from the stone ages! (sorry dad...no offense)....WTH!

I would consider a guy 10 years older if we had a lot in common and had chemistry...and I would consider a guy maybe MAYBE 7 years or so younger....but that's pushing it because of maturity level differences if he had a lot going for him and was in the same place mentally that I am as far as family and what I want in a relationship. But, I seriously doubt I will date anytime soon. Just too much going on and with the whole moving thing, I doubt many guys would be too enthused about my situation either.

Yet, still very annoying and yet another reason why I hate online dating....hence why I always end up deactivating my account as soon as I spend a couple of days lurking and get turned off by the flood of emails by guys telling me how beautiful I am....because you know they don't read ANYTHING in your profile. They just look at your pictures. Hell....they probably don't even realize I'm a single mom.... GEEZ....NEXT!

RANT OVER.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:17 AM, February 26th (Wednesday)]

I hear you She11ybeanz.

I get so disgusted and depressed with this bulls#*t on OLD.

I kicked WH out after a 26 yr. M. I was 52, now 54. I get 60 to 70 something aged men contacting me consistently. Or they are the majority that view my profile. Some ignore my age range 49 - 57.

Most look like they need a nurse, over weight, not healthy, active, fit older men. But just gotta have the "younger woman"

I have taken good care of myself all these years, very active, tennis, hikes, gym, treadmill running, etc. I look younger than 50's yet men my age (54): 9 out of 10 of them have they are looking for women in the 25 to 50 age range. Not even up to their own age. And the few men who are 54 that will go to their age or over only want one or two years over their age and I highly doubt they even want that they just put it on there. It is so true, middle aged women are truly invisible to middle aged men.

WTF

No wonder young women are able to break up long term marriages, youth in a women holds all the power to these men.

I have replied to these much older men that they should consider a woman closer to their own age and I am sure their are a lot of nice women their age. They get angry and call me rude

[This message edited by shiloe at 12:01 PM, February 26th (Wednesday)]

No wonder young women are able to break up long term marriages, youth in a women holds all the power to these men

Very true...although XWH left me for MOW who was only a year younger than me...so I guess I can't blame it on age....just bad taste....and poor judgment!