And he is happily M!!
He smiles lovingly while his W is talking, looks lovingly at her, speaks lovingly to her and of her. They have grown daughters and grandchildren who you know are greatly loved.
He is an attentive, concerned listener who can carry on a conversion with anyone about anything and makes you feel as if you are the only thing that matters at that point, as well as giving or laughingly receiving a gentle ribbing. He makes you feel good, but you know who matters the most to him. He always looks to her. Just an all-around lovely person. Those who have known him 30+ years say he has always been the same.
I have known him a few years and have realized this about him the whole time, but now it seems a bit different to my mind.
After 2+ years of IC, I can recognize this for what it IS as much as what it ISN'T. I have been observing relationships and interactions in light of what I have learned. It feels great to see that difference. THIS is what I will have to see in any future relationship that may ever develop for me! His W is a very lucky woman, and I think she knows it. I'm lucky to know him and see the "perfect" example!