I hope this is the right forum for this, so here goes.......
In a recent obituary column, one was about a middle-aged, decorated military officer with a distinguished career. It talked of bravery and honor. I met him quite a few years ago, so I read with interest of his career and his survivors; his loving wife and several children, siblings and their families. It was a fairly long, impressive tribute, but it made me very sad.
My thoughts were of what it omitted. It didn't mention his beautiful DD born barely a year before he and his loving W M. It did not mention her because he was never a part of her life. He denied her, turned his back and moved on.
She is now a very beautiful, loving, fun, well-adjusted, well-rounded college graduate who is about to be M. Her step-father, the only father she has ever known, will have the honor of walking her down the aisle that day and be the one to shed a tear as she becomes someone's wife. Her "sperm donor", as she refers to him, will never now know what a beautiful person in every way she has become in spite of him. Nor, likely, will her several half-siblings. That makes me feel very sad for them.
How do I know this story about him? The beautiful woman he and his family will never know is my DGD.
She11y, I know you will do a great job with Piper, just as my DD has with my DGD. She, too, struggled as a single mother and moved back in at home for a time. They both know they are well loved. With or without their "sperm donor" in their lives, they will be fine. It's just very sad for what has been lost from the sperm donors' lives by their ignorance and refusal to stand up and be fathers. Very sad. Maybe someday that could still change for Piper, but it's too late for the 'honorable' career military officer of that obituary. He totally missed out.