I would say the only rule is that she has to answer the question. Without lying.
What would start an argument?
The only thing that ever started an argument for me was a ridiculous answer that was an obvious lie.
Rules should be something like total honesty, not partial truths and not lies by omission either.
And a question does have to be answered.
Thanking her. That would be hard to say those words. But I might show it with a hug, showing signs that we will get through this.
If you don't mind saying, what is the one question that sets her off, that gets her defensive. I have found defensiveness usually means something bad, something the WW certainly doesnt want to discuss.
[This message edited by craig2001 at 5:31 PM, February 27th (Thursday)]