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inconnu (original poster member #24518) posted at 2:20 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
5 years ago, around my birthday, I started thinking in terms of a 5 year plan. I was still married, but in what deep down I knew was false R (but wasn't ready to admit that yet). I also knew that regardless of whether my marriage survived or not, my life was going to drastically change over the next 5 years.
And well, I was right. 
So now I've got this big milestone birthday next month. Things haven't happened exactly how I thought that would. Somehow though, I've still managed to check off most everything in the plan.
And I am embracing this birthday, celebrating not only my surviving the past 5 years, but also the new beginning I've built for myself. Instead of a freakin' midlife crisis, I'm having a midlife adventure. Life is good. 
Here's my birthday present to myself...
[This message edited by inconnu at 8:21 PM, February 27th (Thursday)]
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 2:29 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again
Staying together for the kids
D-day 2010
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 2:30 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 2:31 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Beautiful!! Love, love this!! Congrats on all you have accomplished. Early Happy Birthday, too!
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
inconnu (original poster member #24518) posted at 2:38 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Yes, aquamarine. My birthday's towards the end of March, making me an Aries.
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
workindad ( new member #41790) posted at 2:38 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Great idea, congratulations to you!
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:51 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Oooh, nice! Congratulations.
Cars, rings, guitars, we rock NBs around here.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
inconnu (original poster member #24518) posted at 2:54 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
we rock NBs around here.
that we do.
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:58 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Just beautiful, inconnu!
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 3:32 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
Dreamboat ( member #10506) posted at 3:37 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Love it!!
For what would have been my Silver Anniversary, I bought myself a very nice stainless steel mandolin (kitchen slicer)! I am so proud of it and every time I use it I think "I made it! I really made it!"
I hope you enjoy your NB ring as much as I enjoy my NB mandolin
And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine
risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 3:38 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Beautiful! What a wonderful acknowledgement of your brave journey. Happy NB
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 4:01 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Absolutely gorgeous and amazing inconnu!
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
really trying ( member #5311) posted at 4:24 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
very pretty inconnu
Me: late 40's
XH: A parasite and that might be a compliment
My S-23, Our D-15
Married 5/93 D-Day: 11/18/03
Divorced 5/19/08
The future's so bright - I got to wear shades
Plant Seeds of Kindness
Harriet ( member #34543) posted at 4:33 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Love it!
D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 4:36 AM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Lovely! Aquamarines are my favorite. You've got great taste
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
newnormal ( member #21925) posted at 12:08 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07
Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 12:11 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
ajsmom ( member #17460) posted at 2:09 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Very nice!
Looks great on your hand...you could be a hand model.
AJ's MOM
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34
nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 2:20 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
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