A couple of weeks ago, I volunteered with an older woman. We had some down time, so we chatted about our lives. She told me that she and her husband were going on a cruise soon to celebrate their big anniversary. I thought she would tell me that they were celebrating their 50th, but when I asked which one it was, she said it was their 10th.
I came to learn that she was married to her first husband for 16 years but then got divorced. After getting divorced, she spent 24 years living single. She traveled with her sister, raised her kids, and had a ball. She reconnected with her current husband after she had retired, left the area, and lived out of state for several years. When he heard she was back in town, he got in touch to ask her out. They were married a year later.
I'm not saying that we all need to wait 24 years before we start dating again, but I loved her attitude-- she got divorced, but she didn't need a relationship to enjoy life again. She lived life on her terms, traveling and spending time with her family. When the right person came along, she already had a full life, and she wasn't looking desperately to find someone because she felt lonely.
It was nice to see her healthy perspective; we are constantly barraged by the "you must be coupled up no matter what" messages that are hurled at us from every direction. She seems really happy, and they are enjoying a great retirement together. I guess that sometimes good things do come to those who wait.