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User Topic: Another D-Day???
sparkle09
♀ 41901
Member # 41901
Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
I went home for lunch today and WH was on his phone, his work computer was open so I decided to go through his emails. For some weird reason old emails that were not there before popped up. I am talking ab 2007. I found an email between him and affair partner,

AP- Pretty please suga with whipped cream and a cherry on top.

WH- I don't like cherries

From what I knew the sexual innuendos didn't start until 2011 when the PA started. Uhmm is this email not totally sexually charges? WH says I'm overreacting and nothing happened until 2011. I am livid beyond livid he is acting like its no big deal!

I told him to leave...pack it all up and go. I have been in limbo but I feel like this is going to send me over the edge to D.

[This message edited by sparkle09 at 3:17 PM, February 28th (Friday)]

Me-33 WS-34
Pregnant & 2 year old sweet baby girl
Together 15 years Married 5 years
D-day #1 - 12/25/13 TT D-day #2 - 1/3/13 admitted to 3 year affair with co worker
Posts: 119 | Registered: Jan 2014
deena04
♀ 41741
Member # 41741
Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
Trust your gut! Sexual comments like that starting then coupled with his reaction could speak volumes. Not saying for sure, but investigate and listen to yourself...sorry this crap sucks!

Me FBS around 40
Him FWS early 40s (lovemywife4ever)
He cheated before M, forgot to tell me
"Free at last, free at last, thank God Almighty we are free at last" - MLK Jr
Posts: 2178 | Registered: Dec 2013
RipsInMyChest
♀ 41166
Member # 41166
Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
Why does he still have these old emails? It is NOT acceptable to keep them!

So sorry you are going thru this. There is definitely sexual innuendo in the "cherry" talk.....

Me: BW 43 (39 at DDay 1)
FWH 43 (39 at DDay 1) (RibsInHerChest)
Together 23 yrs, M 20, 2 kids
DDay: 12/11/12 ONS with CW
Massive TT due to poly: 1/4/2015 full blown EA/3 week PA
Didn't use condom, I got chlamydia.
Reconciling
Posts: 882 | Registered: Oct 2013
RidingHealingRd
♀ 33867
Member # 33867
Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
Email from 2007 ~ a bit too "friendly"

2011 when the PA started
~ doubtful given the 2007 email.

4+ years until that "friendship" turned PA? I do not believe for one minute that your WH has been truthful.

Why does he have that email?

[This message edited by RidingHealingRd at 4:03 PM, February 28th (Friday)]

ME: 57 BS
HIM: 64 WH
Married: 32 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 6 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.

Posts: 2434 | Registered: Nov 2011
sparkle09
♀ 41901
Member # 41901
Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
Exactly! Its disgusting to think when we were engaged to be married this was going on.

Me-33 WS-34
Pregnant & 2 year old sweet baby girl
Together 15 years Married 5 years
D-day #1 - 12/25/13 TT D-day #2 - 1/3/13 admitted to 3 year affair with co worker
Posts: 119 | Registered: Jan 2014
karmahappens
♀ 35846
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
I posted in your punishing ws thread that your husband appeared to be still foggy and not ready to r.

Again, I believe you should implement the 180. I fear there is more you have not uncovered.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
Posts: 4012 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
So you've decided to separate? I'm sorry.

(((((hugs)))))

DDay - 12/2010
Fully R'd - I love my husband
Posts: 2246 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
sparkle09
♀ 41901
Member # 41901
Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage
Don't know how I missed this but 2 people were copied on email. He said she was asking for a favor saying that and he was being sarcastic with his reply. Also said he would take a lie detector test to "prove" it didn't start until 2011.

[This message edited by sparkle09 at 6:45 PM, February 28th (Friday)]

Me-33 WS-34
Pregnant & 2 year old sweet baby girl
Together 15 years Married 5 years
D-day #1 - 12/25/13 TT D-day #2 - 1/3/13 admitted to 3 year affair with co worker
Posts: 119 | Registered: Jan 2014
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