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Topic: Another D-Day???

sparkle09
♀ 41901
Member # 41901

Posted: 2:39 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014

I went home for lunch today and WH was on his phone, his work computer was open so I decided to go through his emails. For some weird reason old emails that were not there before popped up. I am talking ab 2007. I found an email between him and affair partner,

AP- Pretty please suga with whipped cream and a cherry on top.

WH- I don't like cherries

From what I knew the sexual innuendos didn't start until 2011 when the PA started. Uhmm is this email not totally sexually charges? WH says I'm overreacting and nothing happened until 2011. I am livid beyond livid he is acting like its no big deal!

I told him to leave...pack it all up and go. I have been in limbo but I feel like this is going to send me over the edge to D.

[This message edited by sparkle09 at 3:17 PM, February 28th (Friday)]

Me-33 WS-34
Pregnant & 2 year old sweet baby girl
Together 15 years Married 5 years
D-day #1 - 12/25/13 TT D-day #2 - 1/3/13 admitted to 3 year affair with co worker

Posts: 114 | Registered: Jan 2014

deena04
♀ 41741
Member # 41741

Posted: 3:09 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014

Trust your gut! Sexual comments like that starting then coupled with his reaction could speak volumes. Not saying for sure, but investigate and listen to yourself...sorry this crap sucks!

Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Figuring it out?!?!

Posts: 1485 | Registered: Dec 2013

RipsInMyChest
♀ 41166
Member # 41166

Posted: 3:45 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014

Why does he still have these old emails? It is NOT acceptable to keep them!

So sorry you are going thru this. There is definitely sexual innuendo in the "cherry" talk.....

Me: BW 41 (39 at DDay 1)
FWH 41 (39 at DDay 1) (RibsInHerChest)
Together 22 yrs, M 18, 2 kids
DDay: 12/11/12 ONS with CW
Massive TT: 1/4/2015 full blown EA/PA with multiple encounters over several weeks
Didn't use condom, I got chlamydia.

Posts: 351 | Registered: Oct 2013

RidingHealingRd
♀ 33867
Member # 33867

Posted: 4:02 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014

Email from 2007 ~ a bit too "friendly"

2011 when the PA started

~ doubtful given the 2007 email.

4+ years until that "friendship" turned PA? I do not believe for one minute that your WH has been truthful.

Why does he have that email?

[This message edited by RidingHealingRd at 4:03 PM, February 28th (Friday)]

ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 4 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.

Posts: 2184 | Registered: Nov 2011

sparkle09
♀ 41901
Member # 41901

Posted: 4:24 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014

Exactly! Its disgusting to think when we were engaged to be married this was going on.

Me-33 WS-34
Pregnant & 2 year old sweet baby girl
Together 15 years Married 5 years
D-day #1 - 12/25/13 TT D-day #2 - 1/3/13 admitted to 3 year affair with co worker

Posts: 114 | Registered: Jan 2014

karmahappens
♀ 35846
Member # 35846

Posted: 5:33 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014

I posted in your punishing ws thread that your husband appeared to be still foggy and not ready to r.

Again, I believe you should implement the 180. I fear there is more you have not uncovered.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3910 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts

painfulpast
♀ 41038
Member # 41038

Posted: 5:38 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014

So you've decided to separate? I'm sorry.

(((((hugs)))))

Posts: 2032 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast

sparkle09
♀ 41901
Member # 41901

Posted: 6:42 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014

Don't know how I missed this but 2 people were copied on email. He said she was asking for a favor saying that and he was being sarcastic with his reply. Also said he would take a lie detector test to "prove" it didn't start until 2011.

[This message edited by sparkle09 at 6:45 PM, February 28th (Friday)]

Me-33 WS-34
Pregnant & 2 year old sweet baby girl
Together 15 years Married 5 years
D-day #1 - 12/25/13 TT D-day #2 - 1/3/13 admitted to 3 year affair with co worker

Posts: 114 | Registered: Jan 2014

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