To preface this, I didn't think/know that my WH was in the Fog because he wasn't mourning his AP and he wasn't saying wishy-washy things about wanting to be with me and wanting to R. Maybe I was in the BS Fog and didn't see his Fog clearly???
He has said some things in the last few days that make me think that perhaps he was in fact in the Fog and that the Fog is now starting to lift.
1. We were in MC earlier this week and I shared that his A has damaged my love for him. (I don't want to live in a fantasy and pretend that this is not the case). He was shocked because it never occurred to him that his A would damage my love for him since it didn't affect his love for me.
2. I was angry with him today because I was remembering some of the things that he said to OW during the A and how that relates to things he has said to me since DDay. He was apalled with himself, apologized and said that he is just starting to really understand how deeply his words/actions have hurt me and damaged me.
Am I seeing this correctly that he must have been in the Fog and it is possibly starting to lift?
In addition, I had felt that he was inconsistently remorseful before, but over the last week I think the full impact of his choices/actions is really starting to hit him. His level of remorse seems to have gone a couple orders of magnitude deeper and is consistent.