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User Topic: the past is back
♀ 19258
Member # 19258
Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, March 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So Weirdness real question. I just need to tell people who will get it.

My X and I started dating about a week after my X's roommate/BFF started dating his now wife. This roommate was best man at our wedding. He moved away shortly after the wedding. He moved to the town I live in now. The Bff's wife never liked me much nor I her.

They happen to have moved to the town I live in. They are into triathalons and in particular the ironman tris. Obviously they work out a lot. I have lived here nearly 3 years and I have not run into them. Well Today on the 6yr antiversary I see the wife at the Y.

Its not a big deal. She didn't recognize me and I dashed into my class quickly. I didn't feel the need for the awkward exchange.

One of the things that I have loved about living here is no trace or reminders of my X. It really helped with the last bit of my healing. I just find it slightly irritating that they are here and that they spend time at my regular place. Oh well....that's really all I can say but I sort of feel like he will never be gone.

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

Posts: 9596 | Registered: Apr 2008
♀ 24961
Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, March 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ick. Just remember, they are someone that you use to know. You don't have to acknowledge now. Good for you just going to your class, and not letting seeing her make you leave.

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

Posts: 5919 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
♀ 19946
Member # 19946
Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know what you mean about wishing all traces of X were gone, but pieces keep drifting back.

Fortunately, the pieces just drift. Nothing lodges in your life that you don't want to be there.

BS, 56 years
D-day 6-2-08
D after 20 years
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!

Posts: 6650 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
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