When the BS is feeling down, we r In a pit so deep that usually nothing positive can climb out.
Tomorrow, next week, next month, when she's having a great day, then she may be able to come up with lots of things.
When we think of our husbands choosing someone else, for so many years, it's all consuming, and at that point to say, ya this, this and this has been great is impossible to say.
We r at that moment stuck in the betrayal, it squeezes our hearts/our soul/everything that we knew to b true is stolen from us.
We absolutely appreciate u working hard (i agree u should b doing it for u as well). We r so thankful that u r committed and trying to turn your life around. But in our minds we think....why weren't we good enough before, why didn't u put all the effort into our marriage rather then the affair, how could u choose OW time and time again.
Don't get discouraged scream please, don't. Keep on keeping on. Put in 110 percent everyday. If teach wants to reconcile, then believe she does until the day she chooses not to.
No matter how angry, or sad she gets if she is still choosing r, pls just keep doing your part.
It takes time. Pls be patient and don't expect too much from teach, just love her and cherish her and one day she will have lots of great things to say.....one day.
[This message edited by sad34 at 10:39 PM, March 2nd (Sunday)]