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User Topic: What do you like about yourself?
SpotlessMind
♀ 41775
Member # 41775
Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, after a revelation about my mom in IC last week and looking through my husband's search history during the As (ugh), I've been struggling a little (okay, a lot) this week with self-esteem and recognizing my inner worth.

After reading multiple threads, it appears that many others are struggling in this area as well.

I thought maybe posting a sentence or two about our strengths or what we DO like about ourselves would help us get back on the right mental track? Or at least, not hurt?

I'll start.

I like my persistence. When I put my mind to something, I don't give up easily.

I like also that I try to think of others and practice empathy, even when I am struggling.

What do YOU like about yourself?


fWS/BS--me
BH/WH--him
Married: 12 yrs
D-Day: October
Kids: yes

Posts: 277 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Where am I?
BtraydWife
♀ 42581
Member # 42581
Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I trust myself. I'm not afraid to stand up for myself and I don't back down from threats, etc. If anything they make my stance stronger.

I'm goofy. It's fun.


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


Posts: 2561 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
rachelc
♀ 30314
Member # 30314
Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How important I think being well rounded is and how I live that way myself.


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


Posts: 5740 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
musiclovingmom
♀ 38207
Member # 38207
Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I earned a degree and had a career before I got married and had children (a goal I set for myself as a kid).
I have beautiful eyes.
I am trustworthy.
My children know I love them.
I am an excellent cook and can grocery shop on a shoestring budget (when necessary).
I see joy in most things.

Posts: 1169 | Registered: Jan 2013
bionicgal
♀ 39803
Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am loyal;
I am strong, both physically and mentally;
I am compassionate;
I have a wicked sense of humor.


me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 2241 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
LA44
♀ 38384
Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I make my friends laugh
I bridge gaps
I am compassionate and thoughtful
I will go the extra mile.
Perseverance

Oh. And I am also really good at Oscar picks (see post in Off Topic) that my gambling friends rely upon!

Good thread to start Spotless!


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2672 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
jjsr
♀ 34353
Member # 34353
Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a good sense of humor. My children know they are loved by me. I, too, can shop on a shoestring budget. I can be very focused when I want to be.


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1664 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
SpotlessMind
♀ 41775
Member # 41775
Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! I love these so much--you all are amazing!


fWS/BS--me
BH/WH--him
Married: 12 yrs
D-Day: October
Kids: yes

Posts: 277 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Where am I?
scaredyKat
♀ 25560
Member # 25560
Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I overcame huge hurdles and traumas as a child with no help from anyone. I put myself through college while living in a severely dysfunctional home in 3.5 years and got a teaching job and an apt in the same day. I was a respected, loved, dedicated teacher for 37 years and an awesome mother, often on my own, to two great sons. I'm smart, witty, a good friend, listener, loyal and loving.

Thanks for this thread!


Me-BS-60
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 3854 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
RollrCoasterRydr
♀ 42595
Member # 42595
Default  Posted: 1:55 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am a problem solver, I love to listen to other's experiences, I find beauty everywhere I look, I see beauty and wonder in almost everyone I get to know.

Posts: 18 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
joannie
♀ 42486
Member # 42486
Default  Posted: 2:01 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i like that i have not given up, have had the strength to keep on going, have the strength to keep on going. i am weak in many ways but have found out stronger than i thought.
I like the fact that i am honest, is that it at the moment...yes


me BS 56yr
Him WS 55yr
Married 34 years 2 sons 4 grandchildren

Posts: 215 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: France
spond
♂ 41686
Member # 41686
Default  Posted: 6:56 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My integrity is solid
I love to tackle a good problem
I'm loyal
I am a great investigator, just ask the fWW
I'm forgiving


BH(me) | fWW
2 Kids - Married 2002
D-Day TT & EA | D-Day #2 PA
Reconciling

Posts: 427 | Registered: Dec 2013
ItsaClimb
♀ 37107
Member # 37107
Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I survived an awful childhood
I am an excellent mom
I've got a good sense of humour
I have pretty eyes
I'm very organised and reliable

Love this thread, it's good to focus on our positives while wading through all the crappy stuff!


BS 46
Together 29 yrs, M 25 years
2 daughters 24yo(married with a brand new little daughter) & 19yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later

Posts: 1025 | Registered: Oct 2012
knightsbff
♀ 36853
Member # 36853
Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm kind.
I'm smart.
I'm generous.
I'm willing to work hard to continually improve myself.


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

I edit often because I make a lot of typos. ☺️


Posts: 1525 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
Rebreather
♀ 30817
Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 6:19 PM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm fucking adorable.

Oh, you want the real list?

I'm really quite good at my job, when I am really focused and not dicking off online. Uhhh...

I have a good sense of style and I have really good taste.

I'm quite funny, if slightly off-center humor is your cuppa.

I can hold my liquor.

I care incredibly deeply about the causes I work for.

I can be terribly mean and shallow sometimes, but it's part of my charm (and I need it to balance out the last one).


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6693 | Registered: Jan 2011
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