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User Topic: What do you like about yourself?
SpotlessMind
♀ 41775
Member # 41775
Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, after a revelation about my mom in IC last week and looking through my husband's search history during the As (ugh), I've been struggling a little (okay, a lot) this week with self-esteem and recognizing my inner worth.

After reading multiple threads, it appears that many others are struggling in this area as well.

I thought maybe posting a sentence or two about our strengths or what we DO like about ourselves would help us get back on the right mental track? Or at least, not hurt?

I'll start.

I like my persistence. When I put my mind to something, I don't give up easily.

I like also that I try to think of others and practice empathy, even when I am struggling.

What do YOU like about yourself?


fWS/BS--me
BH/WH--him
Married: 12 yrs
D-Day: October
Kids: yes

Posts: 277 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Where am I?
BtraydWife
♀ 42581
Member # 42581
Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I trust myself. I'm not afraid to stand up for myself and I don't back down from threats, etc. If anything they make my stance stronger.

I'm goofy. It's fun.


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
He choked me. What else is there to say.
Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he can't meet them.
People change when staying the same becomes more painful than changing.

Posts: 5428 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
rachelc
♀ 30314
Member # 30314
Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How important I think being well rounded is and how I live that way myself.

Posts: 7613 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
musiclovingmom
♀ 38207
Member # 38207
Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I earned a degree and had a career before I got married and had children (a goal I set for myself as a kid).
I have beautiful eyes.
I am trustworthy.
My children know I love them.
I am an excellent cook and can grocery shop on a shoestring budget (when necessary).
I see joy in most things.

Posts: 1539 | Registered: Jan 2013
bionicgal
♀ 39803
Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am loyal;
I am strong, both physically and mentally;
I am compassionate;
I have a wicked sense of humor.


me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 3297 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
LA44
♀ 38384
Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I make my friends laugh
I bridge gaps
I am compassionate and thoughtful
I will go the extra mile.
Perseverance

Oh. And I am also really good at Oscar picks (see post in Off Topic) that my gambling friends rely upon!

Good thread to start Spotless!


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 3421 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
jjsr
♀ 34353
Member # 34353
Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a good sense of humor. My children know they are loved by me. I, too, can shop on a shoestring budget. I can be very focused when I want to be.


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.

Posts: 1849 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
SpotlessMind
♀ 41775
Member # 41775
Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! I love these so much--you all are amazing!


fWS/BS--me
BH/WH--him
Married: 12 yrs
D-Day: October
Kids: yes

Posts: 277 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Where am I?
scaredyKat
♀ 25560
Member # 25560
Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I overcame huge hurdles and traumas as a child with no help from anyone. I put myself through college while living in a severely dysfunctional home in 3.5 years and got a teaching job and an apt in the same day. I was a respected, loved, dedicated teacher for 37 years and an awesome mother, often on my own, to two great sons. I'm smart, witty, a good friend, listener, loyal and loving.

Thanks for this thread!


Me-BS-62
HIM-SAFWH-65
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 5287 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
RollrCoasterRydr
♀ 42595
Member # 42595
Default  Posted: 1:55 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am a problem solver, I love to listen to other's experiences, I find beauty everywhere I look, I see beauty and wonder in almost everyone I get to know.

Posts: 18 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
joannie
♀ 42486
Member # 42486
Default  Posted: 2:01 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i like that i have not given up, have had the strength to keep on going, have the strength to keep on going. i am weak in many ways but have found out stronger than i thought.
I like the fact that i am honest, is that it at the moment...yes


me BS 57
Him WS 56
Married 36 years 2 sons 4 grandchildren

Posts: 706 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: France
spond
♂ 41686
Member # 41686
Default  Posted: 6:56 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My integrity is solid
I love to tackle a good problem
I'm loyal
I am a great investigator, just ask the fWW
I'm forgiving


BH(me) | fWW
2 Kids - Married 2002
D-Day TT & EA | D-Day #2 PA
Reconciling

Posts: 437 | Registered: Dec 2013
ItsaClimb
♀ 37107
Member # 37107
Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I survived an awful childhood
I am an excellent mom
I've got a good sense of humour
I have pretty eyes
I'm very organised and reliable

Love this thread, it's good to focus on our positives while wading through all the crappy stuff!


BS 47
Together 30 yrs, M 26 years
2 daughters 25yo(married with a brand new little daughter) & 20yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later

Posts: 1294 | Registered: Oct 2012
knightsbff
♀ 36853
Member # 36853
Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm kind.
I'm smart.
I'm generous.
I'm willing to work hard to continually improve myself.


fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 23, 16, 12. 2 dogs.

I edit often to fix stuff ☺️

Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.


Posts: 1767 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
Rebreather
♀ 30817
Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 6:19 PM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm fucking adorable.

Oh, you want the real list?

I'm really quite good at my job, when I am really focused and not dicking off online. Uhhh...

I have a good sense of style and I have really good taste.

I'm quite funny, if slightly off-center humor is your cuppa.

I can hold my liquor.

I care incredibly deeply about the causes I work for.

I can be terribly mean and shallow sometimes, but it's part of my charm (and I need it to balance out the last one).


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 7690 | Registered: Jan 2011
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