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How long before an A is considered a long term?

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Katz13 posted 3/2/2014 23:02 PM

I was just wondering if it is a time requirement to consider an A an LTA or is it an intensity thing? Thoughts?

sudra posted 3/2/2014 23:14 PM

One year.

HardenMyHeart posted 3/2/2014 23:58 PM

wondering if it is a time requirement to consider an A an LTA or is it an intensity thing

It is considered a LTA based on the length of the affair. It's never been completely clear to me about how long before an affair is considered a LTA. My FWW's affair was 3 years and I consider it a LTA. However, I know there are SI members that had to deal with affairs that went on for decades.

Whatever the length of time/intensity you are dealing with, if you feel you would be better served by calling your WS's affair a LTA, then I don't think anyone would object. There is a LTA thread in the I Can Relate forum you may find helpful. Perhaps you can read some of the posts there and see if they relate to your situation.

[This message edited by HardenMyHeart at 12:03 AM, March 3rd (Monday)]

Jrazz posted 3/3/2014 13:48 PM

if you feel you would be better served by calling your WS's affair a LTA, then I don't think anyone would object.


This ^^. There's no technical definition for the duration of an Affair. Two months was WAY to long in my book, but in my heart I don't consider it a LTA so I don't call it that. Some people use the year as a marker, but you get to call it whatever makes sense to you.

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