"I'm forever grateful for my second chance."
I responded that I'm grateful he felt all the hard work was worth it, I know it hasn't been easy for him to face the reality of his actions and the fallout. He said:
"It's not over, but I'd do 10 times the amount of work if it meant staying together. I don't want a life without you."
I swallowed my initial reaction of "you should have thought of that before" and decided to enjoy his hearfelt words and the consistent actions that back them up.
How about you? What has he/she said that gives you hope you're on the path to R?
Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9
First I have to say I love this! So true. This is my type of humor.
Anyway...You were right to enjoy the moment instead of allowing in the negative thoughts. Good for you!
I am fairly comfortable in R right now and have had moments like the one you describe. He always apologizes for hurting me whenever I am feeling sad or have a trigger. He has anticipated triggers and is there for me. Sometimes I get an "I love you" out of the blue, like I say "How cold outside is it today?" and he says "I love you."
i do my very best to live in the moment.
I was getting a little unnerved by the recent rash of "I give up" posts, it's really nice to see these examples of healing.
Trying hard to hold onto these things during this rocky roller coaster ride…..
We're going away tomorrow and JFO our reservations got REALLY messed up. WH was panicked that the trip was going to fall apart and spent hours on the phone fixing it.
I told him how much I appreciate all he did to get this resolved. It wasn't his mistake and he stood on his head to fix it. His response made me cry:
"I could never do enough for you after the kindness and grace you've shown me. I can't wait to spoil you for a week."
[This message edited by jpumpkin at 8:31 PM, March 4th (Tuesday)]