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InnerLight (original poster member #19946) posted at 5:28 PM on Monday, March 3rd, 2014
Well that was a weird dream. God knows what it means.
I was sleeping with SO IRL last night too, and really enjoying having him close after a period of being apart. We had had a very peaceful evening.
In the dream I lived with a woman, we were roommates and shared the same bedroom like we were in a college dorm type situation to save money on rent.
I had a girlfriend stay over and fell in love with her. She was someone I used to know IRL, a beautiful delicate Danish blond woman with an accent. I wanted us to be lovers and we slept in the same bed. My roommate was furious with me for having her over.
Then I realized I would have to break up with SO and I dreaded telling him. Then I realized I would have to confess to my SI friends that I was now a WGF and I dreaded that too.
How crazy is all that?
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 5:37 PM on Monday, March 3rd, 2014
Dreaming about what we fear OR desire is fairly common. I can understand the discord, though, because my dreams are rarely that lucid--more like Salvador Dali than Lifetime Movie 
I had a very lucid dream last night, but it was something I desired rather than feared. It woke me up wondering too... Must be something in the air. 
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 6:28 PM on Monday, March 3rd, 2014
I have really mundane dream fights then wake up angry because they felt so real. It makes no logical sense, but even in a dream world you can't control normal physiological reactions like anger, fear or guilt.
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
BAB61 ( member #41181) posted at 7:22 PM on Monday, March 3rd, 2014
Is it something that you would do IRL? If it's not I would just let it go. Dreams can get really wonky. I had a dream that I had a
Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.
BAB61 ( member #41181) posted at 7:24 PM on Monday, March 3rd, 2014
Is it something you would do IRL? If not, then I don't think it's something to worry about.
My dreams can be really wonky. I woke up the other day and I had dreamed about my new BF .. and I even knew his name!! He took my daughters and I to a local ballgame. I am not even dating!
Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 7:25 PM on Monday, March 3rd, 2014
I am glad I am not the only one who views SI as my living conscience!
There are many times when I think "I can't wait to tell SI!" and the times when I think, "uhhh, I don't want to tell SI..."
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
InnerLight (original poster member #19946) posted at 8:21 PM on Monday, March 3rd, 2014
It's not something I would do IRL at all. I think it is more a reflection of a collection of inner personas I carry: the roommate who was mad, the pretty Danish woman, and me as the lover and betrayer. The SO is a persona too in the dream. SI is of course my conscience. The one that will not let me get away with, 'it just happened!'.
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
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