How do you see your specialness? His/hers for the taking or yours to own?
Both. I'm an incredible human being. I'm kind and loyal and generous and all kinds of other things. His behavior didn't change who I am.
That said, I did feel less special TO HIM. He shared things with others that should have been reserved for us. He devoted a lot of time and energy to APs that should have been spent on me, our family and our M.
I was less than gracious reminding him of the above facts and told him point blank that he had better get his shit together and PROVE that he meant it when he said wanted to R. As heart-broken as I was, I knew I'd be OK without him.