Apparently I have been in "false R" for about 20 months now. I found out over the weekend that my H has been looking at porn and lying about it. Lies, lies, and more lies I guess. Apparently he thought because he was no longer having the A, that was enough to consider himself a big hero.
This time, if I decide to stay in this M I mean, I guess I need to lay down some ground rules. Why the Sam hell I should have to do that, I don't really know, but i guess I will see what happens. To me, these things should be freaking obvious, but apparently they are not!
I'm starting to compile a "contract" so to speak. Can everyone help me out with suggestions? Obviously, no cheating, no lying, no lies of omission, no compartmentalizing, no porn (ummm, duh?!), but what else?
I want my M to work, he's a good man who has a lot to learn about himself and life. I hope he puts in the work to figure it out. If not, I'm no longer willing to be the sacrificial rat in his life experiment. I've got one foot out the door, trying to keep the other one from following.