Welcome and I am glad that you posted. What transpired today was very shocking and you've got your mind going in many different directions. Focus on getting that appt to IC taken care of and then the Doc for STD test. I wouldn't be in a rush yet with the attorney as your head will need to be clear to understand what they are saying. I suspect that with the high level of emotions that you might miss out of things when talking with an attorney right now.
The thing to remember is that you can overcome this and you can heal. Don't lose hope. Keep posting and get support.
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
Wow, you seem to have got yourself together and although you will have bad days when you may weaken or doubt yourself, you are being strong and that is important.
My situation is not the same as yours, but there are many here going through the same as you and they will be along soon to offer you more advice and help, and we are all shoulders for you to lean and cry on whenever you need us.
You have so done the right thing by already reading other posts and getting the right advice, these people know what they are talking about.
You definatley need to get all the appointments as you have said, including seeing a lawyer re divorce, to make sure you know all your entitlements. If a reconcilation should be possible, (if it is what you want) then it can be stopped, but it lets him know that you wont' take any more rubbish from him.
I hope you can gain strength from knowing that we are all here for you. Keep reading and posting as you will learn how helpful that is, no matter whats happens. ((((hugs to you)))))
Its so difficult to be hard and decisive when your world is crumbling around you and you feel so very alone. Thats why it important to turn to friends, family and SI of course. Can't do it alone; support and encouragement is vital when the person you most trusted sticks a knife in your back then tries to justify it.
Filing for divorce tells him you're getting on the train, its leaving the station and he had better think about his options before its too late.
Reach out to friends and family, follow the advice of the attorney, and stand strong. Put your WH on mute and detach yourself.
You can do this. You deserve better. There is going to be light at the end of the tunnel. It is a hard path to walk, but you are strong enough to walk it, and to come out a more compassionate, independent, fire-tested version of yourself.
((((hugs))))
It's good that you have the strength at this point to detach yourself from him and get him out if that's what you need. Get what you need and worry about the rest later. I can see that you are a strong person. That is good for you and to use that strength going forward.
Keep your kids close and hug them a little tighter. Wishing you more strength and courage to get through this.
Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson
Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.
So proud of you for finding some strength.
You've received some good advice. Also remember the basics to maintaining good health through this difficult period...Eat right, get plenty of rest, and exercise.
Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.
You will get through this.
Don't forget to stay hydrated and as nourished as you can. You're already ahead of the game on the rest.
Some questions though: Are you through with him, or are you considering R? Are there kids involved? How does he know the OW? Have you told OW's husband or Boyfriend?
