Topic: Actually, I'm getting there
Member # 42658
| Posted: 12:02 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014|
Maybe it's just me, but this morning, like a lot of mornings lately, I woke up feeling grateful. Grateful that I love someone that loves me, even though he's far from perfect. Grateful that I've had enough challenges in my life to know myself well enough to know that I can handle the really hard things. And grateful that I make a choice everyday to see that even though people are flawed and they make terrible mistakes, and they hurt other people deeply sometimes, everyone is doing the best they can. I'm throwing judgement in the trash, and although I'll continue to have really hard days like yesterday once in a while, I'll keep myself sweet (not bitter), and I won't lose faith that we need the dark times in order to recognize the sunshine.
forgive as deeply as you love
Posts: 9 | Registered: Mar 2014
Member # 40166
| Posted: 12:08 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014|
That's so great, what an empowering feeling!
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.
Posts: 1043 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
Member # 42185
| Posted: 12:12 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014|
Love it, foxy. Those mornings where you can feel some joy and gratitude are so special, aren't they?
BW: me (39)
OW: false "friend"
D-Day: 11/29/13 (4 month EA discovered); 12/19/13 (discovered was also PA); TT thru 2/14
Married: 2001; Together for 20 years
2 beautiful young kids
Posts: 653 | Registered: Jan 2014
Member # 39803
| Posted: 12:13 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014|
Thank God for a positive post, and I am glad to hear about your moment of Zen!
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
Posts: 2419 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Member # 42641
| Posted: 12:15 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014|
Its posts like this that really give me hope that it might eventually get a little better. Thanks for sharing your positive outlook! :)
Me - 26, BS
Him - 37, WS
1 PA for 3 months, multiple EAs
Dday - Nov 8th 2013
2 dd's - 2.5 and 8 mos
Posts: 39 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Canada
Member # 31349
| Posted: 12:16 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014|
"All the wars, all the hatred, all the ignorance in the world come out of being so invested in our opinions. And at bottom, those opinions are merely our efforts to escape the underlying uneasiness of being human. - Pema Chodron
Posts: 20779 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 38846
| Posted: 12:32 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014|
That was so well-said, Foxy. Good for you! And thanks for sharing!
Me: BH, 54
Her: WW, 54 4 yr LTA
Married 32 yrs, 2 college age boys
DDay #1: 15Feb13 - LTA 2008-2013
DDay #2: 27Jan14 - ONS, same AP 2007 - turns out it was a 6 yr LTA
Trying to understand
Posts: 267 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Colorado
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