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User Topic: Actually, I'm getting there
Foxyfox
♀ 42658
Member # 42658
Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe it's just me, but this morning, like a lot of mornings lately, I woke up feeling grateful. Grateful that I love someone that loves me, even though he's far from perfect. Grateful that I've had enough challenges in my life to know myself well enough to know that I can handle the really hard things. And grateful that I make a choice everyday to see that even though people are flawed and they make terrible mistakes, and they hurt other people deeply sometimes, everyone is doing the best they can. I'm throwing judgement in the trash, and although I'll continue to have really hard days like yesterday once in a while, I'll keep myself sweet (not bitter), and I won't lose faith that we need the dark times in order to recognize the sunshine.


forgive as deeply as you love

Posts: 9 | Registered: Mar 2014
Morhurt
♀ 40166
Member # 40166
Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's so great, what an empowering feeling!


Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 961 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
veronique12
♀ 42185
Member # 42185
Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love it, foxy. Those mornings where you can feel some joy and gratitude are so special, aren't they?


BW: me (38)
WH: 43
OW: false "friend"
D-Day: 11/29/13 (4 month EA discovered); 12/19/13 (discovered was also PA); TT thru 2/14
Married: 2001; Together for nearly 20 years
2 beautiful young kids

Posts: 571 | Registered: Jan 2014
bionicgal
♀ 39803
Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank God for a positive post, and I am glad to hear about your moment of Zen!


me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 2244 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
awoel88
♀ 42641
Member # 42641
Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Its posts like this that really give me hope that it might eventually get a little better. Thanks for sharing your positive outlook! :)


Me - 26, BS
Him - 37, WS
1 PA for 3 months, multiple EAs
Dday - Nov 8th 2013
Married 06/2012
2 dd's - 2.5 and 8 mos
Attempting R

Posts: 39 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Canada
Jrazz
♀ 31349
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron

Me: BW 35
Crazz: WH 33
Daughter: 4.5 Going on 16


Posts: 18682 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Crushed15Feb13
♂ 38846
Member # 38846
Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That was so well-said, Foxy. Good for you! And thanks for sharing!


Me: BH, 54
Her: WW, 54 4 yr LTA
Married 32 yrs, 2 college age boys
DDay #1: 15Feb13 - LTA 2008-2013
DDay #2: 27Jan14 - ONS, same AP 2007 - turns out it was a 6 yr LTA
Trying to understand

Posts: 267 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Colorado
Topic Posts: 7

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