I was an early member here - in 2004!!
DDay - my 19th anniversary on 1 Sept.
Had a subsequesnt 4 year relationship and quite a few shorter ones since then.
The OW died a year after I and my X separated. He went on to marry another unfortunate woman. She then found him on a gay website describing himself as bisexual - and she found he had cheated with another woman. She divorced him and now she and I are good pals!!
I have lots of male "suitors", but you know what I am quite happy on my own - in fact I am the happiest I have probably ever been. I have raised my two kids on my own. We are very close and they have done very well. I have lots of interests and I am committed to growing old very disgracefully!!
I have worked hard. While my X has fallen on hard times, I can see that I will have a comfortable old age.
I would only be with somebody now if they treated me like a princess, they are financially sound, physically fit and attractive etc etc. Otherwise they get shown the door!
I never believed almost 10 years ago I would get to this stage of contentment again. But it does happen. If anybody is out there and reads this, I just wanted you to know peace and contentment after divorce can indeed happen.