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guarded12 posted 3/5/2014 19:06 PM

Well its been 6 months since the divorce. You know I'm a dww. There are times where I look back and see how terrible I was and how evil my ways were.Yes I look back and see things could've been different. I have grown from this journey. My bs DIDNT deserve that life and neither did I.We both had our faults I did love him in the beginning but times change and you grow apart. Have I learned from this absolutely! I cheated twice and my marriage ended. I asked for the divorce. The first time I cheated I thought was the last. I did it again with a friend who was a male. Let me tell you dont have male friends in your wife's life if she cheated once. Because once twice is doesn't matter.Marriage is a bond not to be broken and I broke mine. My insecurity my evil thinking did this and well to be honest I wasn't cut out for marriage yet. In time I hope to figure myself out. Time heals all wounds my clock just stopped ticking. He loved me and gave his all I just DIDNT give enough to him or myself.

jo2love posted 3/8/2014 08:43 AM

*waving hi*

It's good to hear that are working on yourself and are learning the importance of boundaries. Wishing you happiness.

GotPlayed posted 3/8/2014 09:01 AM

Thank you for posting this.

I hope for my kids sake my STBXWW gets to where you are. I offered R and she did it again. I made one last offer and she declined. She asked for the divorce first after I warned her.

She still blames me for "coming down like a sledgehammer" on her.

Now I'm doing personal growth separately and we're divorcing. She wanted me to be a doormat so she could cake eat, so my growth is partly on not being a doormat anymore. Now I understand she has neither OM nor me. But she still hasn't hit rock bottom yet, so now it's "take the H to the cleaners through the lawyer" time.

All while she says how sorry she is "for all the pain". Yet she doesn't stop dealing pain. Bizarre.

guarded12 posted 6/27/2014 14:05 PM

Well its been almost a year. I can say I've seen the dark and the light. I've grown and learned a lot.I've dated and seen the sea. I relish that my marriage failing was me.All me. Would I go back in time.? Probably not..It took a divorce to see the light.I'm a much better person now I like myself and have become a better mother. To before and after thank you:)

tabitha95 posted 6/27/2014 14:44 PM

Glad that you popped in and gave us the update. It's always nice to see that people in NB are feeling better about themselves (and especially about their parenting...that has been a big plus for me during this whole mess too).

Plinker77 posted 6/30/2014 09:23 AM

That took a lot to state those things. Good for you and good luck in the future.