No advice, just wanted to say you've been heard.
My ex talked in a totally crazy fashion about our moving in a few years to VT where we know no no one and where I would give up my career and friends for our future family. This was at a time when he had pretty much already decided to cheat. Still makes me mad!
I know that's a t/j but your WH just reminded me of it--the selfishness, the irrationality.
And as the rational partner you're just left trying to explain that they have it all wrong while knowing that you aren't being heard.
Aggravating is an understatement for it!
I call those days, just more nails in the coffin of our M. Sometimes you just have to shake your head and realize, I don't even f**king like you.
EXACTLY!!!! Thank you for this, Ostrich. I have these days, and I think I'm going crazy.
Ivyivy, is your WS still in his affair, or is he just so unhappy that he is trying to bring you down, too. Some people just don't know how to be happy, and are always thinking a "change" is just what they need, when in reality THEY are the ones that need to change.
Whatever you decide you need to do...end or continue this journey...I wish you strength and peace.
If you don't want to move, I hope you won't. Its one thing if he's TRYING to R, but this is just too big a risk to you. Not fair at all that he's asking, or even mentioning it.
Stay strong. I hope your rollercoaster ride comes to a complete stop soon, one way or the other.
And then go have a pedicure and a massage. On him.
D-Day, June 10, 2012