Dear NB's
My Questions are:
- Do long distance relationships (LDR) ever work?
- What is the farthest LDR that worked for you?
- How do you overcome the time you are apart? Is phone calls and texting enough? When is it too much?
- What other secrets work?
My Story:
So, I met a woman. We have been dating for about 4 weeks. I really like her. Yes, I know it is early, but we click on many emotional levels. She is kind, thoughtful, honest and extremely pretty. Our value system match completely. We enjoy the same things and activities. Yes, sounds perfect... She even gets my humor and actually finds it funny. That is RARE INDEED!!
Here is the rest of the story. We live about an hour and half from each other. We both have demanding professional jobs that make seeing each other extremely difficult anytime during the week. Also, factor in our work locutions, and we are about 2 hours apart on weekdays. I could not get to her house before 9 PM during the week.
Couple in that our semi-grown children live with each of us full time and still depend on us for some of their needs and support. Our religious backgrounds do not support living together, as well as the extra challenge that my X-Wife still lives close by (two house down...)
You might suggest that I sell my house and move closer to her. That is not really an option. It is too early in the relationship to ponder that. My son enjoys living here with me. The house is built exactly as I want and has all of the features I could ever need. Also, my selling the house only gives my SO comfort while in my new home, it still does not completely solve the distance issue that would remain between us.
I would like to give this relationship it's best chance to work, but I have my doubts. Even seeing each other once a week has it's challenges with other things going on in each of our lives.
I do know she has similar feelings. We have talked about the distance between us but have yet to find a good solution that works for both of us.
There is part of me that wants to just drop this and move on. But honestly, I have dated a lot of people since my divorce and she is the first I met where I could see us forming a very happy relationship together. I do like her very very much and would be saddened to see it end. But, I know the pain will be much worse, if we end this relationship after being together for a lengthy time.