Sometimes I just can't help but feel inadequate. :(
My H is a tit guy. From the time we met he told me about his ex, who is also the OW, and how huge her tits were. I've seen them from the pictures that she sent them.
A particular message he sent to her always comes into my head.
WH said, "show me your tits"
OW replied, "look at your wife's"
WH response, "I see those everyday and want something better."
We've talked about that particular message and he says it wasn't about me, he only really wanted her to send a picture. That might be true but it still makes me feel so inadequate. Sigh...
Just remember that you aren't the one who abandoned your morals. That automatically makes you so much more beautiful than that OW.
My WBF said that part of the intrigue of the OW was that she had a large chest...how lovely. But guess what...those things fade.
I know that he is probably just saying this to make me feel better (or maybe its true, either way I'll take it), but WBF said that OW boobs ended up being a huge disappointment because as soon as she took off her bra, her boobs sagged soooo much. YAY for A-cup perky boobs!! lol
It doesn't make you inadequate. There's always going to be someone "better looking" or with bigger boobs, better skin, hair, whatever...it doesn't matter. Your WH lacked morals. Simple as that. It doesn't make you less of a person, it makes HIM less of a Man.
And just as Veronique12 said - You are a much more beautiful person that OW (as am I!!) because you have morals and wouldn't stoop to that level. You are beautiful!
[This message edited by 4everfaithful83 at 7:12 PM, March 6th (Thursday)]
Together 8 years
DDay: June 24, 2013
Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson
Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.
Until I see someone gorgeous who has been cheated on, someone spectacular...then I remember, its not about that.
And if I, a loyalhonesttrustworthylovingbeing, am inadequate, what does that make a cheating ahole?
Yes, she is physically more attractive than me if you just consider looks. But, my personality put with my looks makes me overall more attractive than she is.
So, her boobs are bigger than yours. Big boobs are not all that they're cracked up to be. There's a lot of outfits that I can't wear (like strapless dresses) because of my boobs. I bet you're able to wear a lot of outfits that she can't. I'm always jealous of girls I see with small boobs. And, that conversation makes her sound like a very unattractive person overall. And then also... I presume that your H chose your boobs over hers since he's still with you instead of her!
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Makes you think. In the beginning when my WW told me she had sex with both OM I said I don't have anything to offer you. She said it's not about looks. She said it's how you treat someone. I get that but it doesn't less-ing the blow.
But with that remark it made me think. What does she have to offer me, character wise and sexually. Using her own words against her she treated me like crap because of her brokenness.
I have a lot to offer. Remember that you too have a lot to offer and you should be appreciated the way you are. I have a rule in my house that my wife or daughters don't work makeup because they are naturally beautiful.