I have read a lot of things when it comes to marriage advice about "communication"
Granted there are many couples who do have this problem, or individuals who do have trouble communicating.
BUT what about those of us who seem to be able to communicate very well to our spouse? What I mean by "very well" is that we are saying out loud our feelings about something or our fears about something etc.
I have recently read about perception. Most of the times, those of us who are communicating adequately are having trouble with perception. Whether it be us wrongly perceiving what our spouse is saying or vice versa. The statement "Well I didn't mean it like that" comes to mind to give you all a better idea of what I mean.
I, myself, have had a hard time with "assuming" probably most of my life. IMO assumption goes hand in hand with perception. One of the things I have been working on for the past ten months. A psychologist of mine has opened my eyes to one instance in particular that I perceived completely the wrong way. It was eye opening. We, as humans, have a tendency to put our perceptions onto others. Meaning we think they think the way we think. Geez that was a mouthful. The reality is, no two people think alike no matter how alike they are. One's perception of a statement, situation, etc may be the COMPLETE opposite of what another's perception of that same statement, situation, etc is.
I am curious as to what you all think of this, becuase so many marriage help books, seminars, tips, etc. focus so much on communication, when really it is only a small part of the root problem in some cases.
thoughts comments concerns?
"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"