It is hard not to get down on yourself and think that you won't get over it. But you can. Each day you can take a little step forward. It accumulates and soon you've made some great progress.
Along with teaching your kids about being respected they also need to know about forgiveness. His cheating was wrong and if he continues to disrespect you then maybe that is the time to teach your kids the disrespect lesson. If he is remorseful and making retributions then the two of you have taught your kids about remorse, atonement, and forgiveness. So don't get caught up too much as you can always find a lesson to teach. Focus on stepping forward each day.
I hope this new counselor will suit your needs.
[This message edited by MovingUpward at 1:55 PM, March 7th (Friday)]