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Topic: Wanting, maybe Tmi
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Chippednotbroken
♀ 40170
Member # 40170 |  Posted: 11:15 AM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014 |     |
I am not that far out. Been done with ex way before I found out about affair. I dislike him intensely. I wish he would find a nice women so I could deal with her instead of him. I am in no way shape or form wanting another "relationship". So here is my problem! I want physical contact. I want a safe person to call at night. I don't need advice about a toy or volunteering. Does this intense feeling of needing to be physical go away? I can't seem it find an alternative that makes it better.
Me 33 (former BS)
Divorced November 17, 2014.
3 young kids
Posts: 365 | Registered: Aug 2013 |
ProbableIceCream
♂ 37468
Member # 37468 | | Posted: 11:49 AM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014 | |
Take a large enough dose of a med that inhibits serotonin reuptake and it'll go away for sure. 
Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).
Posts: 863 | Registered: Nov 2012 |
Chippednotbroken
♀ 40170
Member # 40170 | | Posted: 11:57 AM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014 | |
Well crap. 
Me 33 (former BS)
Divorced November 17, 2014.
3 young kids
Posts: 365 | Registered: Aug 2013 |
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226 | | Posted: 12:21 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014 | |
Does this intense feeling of needing to be physical go away? It will ebb. It will also come back from time to time. Hang in there.
You can call me NIK
"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman
Posts: 27194 | Registered: Aug 2011 |
InnerLight
♀ 19946
Member # 19946 | | Posted: 2:51 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014 | |
Exercise?
Maybe you are feeling juice come back into your body after a long oppression. Things are waking up. Its all energy and you can channel it where you choose to.
BS, now age 54, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.
Posts: 6028 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California |
I.will.survive
♀ 34677
Member # 34677 | | Posted: 3:28 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014 | |
Go for a massage. You'll love the high you get afterwards. 
Posts: 530 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: east coast |
phillygirl
♀ 9078
Member # 9078 | | Posted: 3:45 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014 | |
I second the massage. I have those Hand and Stone places near me, they sell subscriptions pretty cheap so you can go regularly.
But yeah, the wanting just a snuggle at night or sweaty sex sneaks up on me too. Then I remember I never really had too much of that anyway and I schedule a massage or grab BOB.
Me - BW
Him - WH
Divorced - 7/2013
Posts: 827 | Registered: Dec 2005 |
Chippednotbroken
♀ 40170
Member # 40170 | | Posted: 3:50 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014 | |
I exercise regularly, not helping. Yes I have alternatives, but not quite the same is it? I'll try the massage. If nothing else my back will feel better :).
Me 33 (former BS)
Divorced November 17, 2014.
3 young kids
Posts: 365 | Registered: Aug 2013 |
burnedcanuckEMS
♀ 35813
Member # 35813 | | Posted: 4:17 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014 | |
No, it doesn't go away. I also want that sort of contact, however as part of my healing I am much more careful in my choices in men now, and as a result have been celibate for nearly a year. 
I really missed having something to cuddle up to in bed. My bed just seemed to big and empty, especially since I moved into an apartment and can't even have my dog or cat. One day at Costco I spotted these huge body length pillows. It doesn't really replace a warm body but it does help me to snuggle up to it! And it comes with a lot less baggage and I don't have to worry about it cheating on me!!!
Me: BW 38, Him: WH 37
M: 07/07/07
DDay: 06/09/12
Divorce Granted on December 5, 2012 - fasted divorce ever (thanks to my good lawyer) and I am not looking back with ANY regrets!!
PS...sorry for any spelling errors or missing letters etc..... ty
Posts: 311 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Alberta |
mainlyinpain
♀ 39134
Member # 39134 | | Posted: 4:36 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014 | |
Deluxe Comfort Boyfriend Body Pillow
by AB Marketers
23 customer reviews
Price: $39.95
Boyfriend pillow includes a removable microfiber shirt for easy care. and the pillow is filled with polyester.
Use the pillow as a body pillow; as a neckroll; unique pillow shape; great for snuggling
Machine washable
Boyfriend pillow body measures 22 by 9-inch and the arm 36-inch
Posts: 543 | Registered: Apr 2013 |
mainlyinpain
♀ 39134
Member # 39134 | | Posted: 4:38 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014 | |
Sorry chipped not broken,
I know what you are feeling. Humans need to touch.
I second the pillow idea /\/\/\/\/\ (like this one)...
Or a pooch if you can have one.
Hugs to you
You'll get through it
Posts: 543 | Registered: Apr 2013 |
erzulie
♀ 3293
Member # 3293 | | Posted: 5:38 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014 | |
Just waving my hand to join the "crowd" here.
I, too, crave physical affection. Almost in an unhealthy way, in fact. Not just the hot steamy kind, but the sweet kind, too.
It keeps me up at night sometimes, tossing and turning. Sometimes it actually feels like it hurts.
Ugh.
A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".
Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.
Posts: 3377 | Registered: Jan 2004 | From: California |
Chippednotbroken
♀ 40170
Member # 40170 | | Posted: 11:37 AM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014 | |
Yes erzulie! I feel obsessed. I have to tell myself to stop. Most weeks are fine but then I'll go through three days where I feel crazy.
Nice pillow!
Me 33 (former BS)
Divorced November 17, 2014.
3 young kids
Posts: 365 | Registered: Aug 2013 |
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